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The I Feel Down Topic.

cool_boy_jon said:
This year I have started a new school. This school offers 3 sports for boys: Football, Rugby and Cricket. First term we will be doing football, second rugby and so on.

Last week I made the football team (Not intended) and was told that this Wednesday we will be playing a home match.

I hate football, im not very good at it, but im tall, which makes me a good headerer. I was put in striker, which is my weakest point on the pitch.

Im really worrying about this match, i dont enjoy playing football whatsoever, but I really would like to win this match.

Any advice?
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In year 4 the same thing happened to me, and although I liked football I didn't like the idea of playing for the school team, and felt the same as you do. I was pretty tall for my age back the so was put in defence, and in all honesty really didn't want to play.

What happened? I was man of the match, marked the opposing striker out of the game, and played for every school year team till year 11! Later on in school life I lost my height advantage, so started playing first as a wing back, then as a holding midfielder, but still loved playing, and I played in some great games in my time as a player for my school teams, and now play for a Sunday league team. I also had trials for the Tranmere Rovers youth team when I was 10, but sadly that didn't work out.

So you should seriously go for it mate, and if you ever need any advice/tactics feel free to ask me. :)
 
queenofspeed it is good to know the rant on this thread helped. and i hope you don't get flack at school over it :D
 
I'm just lying in bed thinking about suicide. I have to be up at 8 but I can't sleep because my brain just wants to think about death and how to die. Shut the hell up brain, I have to be up in less than six freakin' hours and it can't do to have you babbling your constant stream of BS when I wanna sleep.

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Sam said:
I'm just lying in bed thinking about suicide. I have to be up at 8 but I can't sleep because my brain just wants to think about death and how to die. Shut the hell up brain, I have to be up in less than six freakin' hours and it can't do to have you babbling your constant stream of BS when I wanna sleep.

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Sam, your fairly regular comments and thoughts of suicide on here are worrying. I know you have said you have had counselling, seen your GP, tried anti-depressants etc etc, but maybe it's time to go back to your GP and discuss your thoughts of suicide and how serious they are , if they are. Perhaps you need to be referred for psychological or psychiatric evaluation?
I know this topic is about being able to share your feelings when you are 'down', but when we are talking about something as serious as suicide, it adds an element of responsibility on the readers of this post, if it were to be ignored and something happened.
 
Sam, you may not like what I say but Its because I worry and care for you as many members of this community do.

You need professional help, Even taking to a place of safety.

If a doctor reads what you been writing here, He would have enough to get you assess for up to 72 hours.

You can request assessment by your local mental health in care unit. under the volunteered assessment in the mental health act.

To be blunt. If you get serious thoughts of suicide again, Pick up the phone and call your Doctors/ they out of hour service, and talk to them about your thoughts. if they are extreme and you really feel like doing it call 999 and tell the ambulance service! As we would like you to be in an ambulance going to a safe place than Ending up as a mind fucking discovery by anyone in your house.

Trust Me, Finding a dead body is NOT fun, I don't know what it would be like if it was a family member, that had taken their own life and I found them. All I know is the Family members are racked with guilt at not being able to help or not seeing the signs.

I could carry on being Blunt, but i am sailing close to the wind with this posting already.

Just do something before its too late!!!

P.S if you do go for help, please just drop a line on here, so we don't start worrying when you don't pop up.

I apology for swearing and If this post has upset, distressed or in any other way affect any readers in a negative way
 
I'm not going to do anything right now.

I just said I was thinking about it. Not about doing it, but about it in general. It fascinates me. I've already decided that I probably won't do it at least until after both my parents are dead. After that, I dunno, but hopefully that's still a couple of decades away.

I actually checked myself into an A&E department a few months back with suicidal thoughts. I wasn't really going to do it, but I felt frustrated that I didn't feel I was getting anywhere with the medical process. And I just felt in an absolute state that night. It was a cry for help I guess, but everyone there was absolutely useless, and it didn't change anything. It just wasted my time and their time.

Dylan, I also managed to get a referral to a psychiatric unit last year, and got an initial interview thing. But basically I was suddenly unnerved by sitting opposite a very friendly middle-aged woman, and I found it impossible to say how bad everything really was. I came across a lot happier and healthier than I really am, and they just bounced me back to my GP, saying they didn't think it was an appropriate treatment.

What are you meant to do when the NHS is so utterly incompetent and rubbish? I really think I need the next step in treatment, but I can't get access to it. I've even seriously planned ridiculous stunts, like faking a failed suicide attempt, to try and get them to take me seriously.
 
I have mixed feelings about your last post.

Don't do ridiculous stunts, like faking a failed suicide attempt. If it goes wrong you can seriously injure yourself or worse.

I am glad you have been seeking help, but a bit upset that it has got nowhere. And a fascination with it is worrying in itself.
 
Sam said:
Dylan, I also managed to get a referral to a psychiatric unit last year, and got an initial interview thing. But basically I was suddenly unnerved by sitting opposite a very friendly middle-aged woman, and I found it impossible to say how bad everything really was. I came across a lot happier and healthier than I really am, and they just bounced me back to my GP, saying they didn't think it was an appropriate treatment.

What are you meant to do when the NHS is so utterly incompetent and rubbish? I really think I need the next step in treatment, but I can't get access to it. I've even seriously planned ridiculous stunts, like faking a failed suicide attempt, to try and get them to take me seriously.
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With all due respect, I'm not entirely sure how you can call the NHS 'utterly incompetent and rubbish' when they have referred you to the correct people, yet you have admittedly given them a false impression of how bad your mental state is. How are they meant to give you the right treatment, if you don't give them the right information?
I'm not sure how the fact that she was a friendly middle aged woman is relevant? Possibly a friendly middle aged woman with years of experience dealing with cases much like yourself, who has maybe been able to help lots of young people overcome these feelings when they have actually given her the correct information??
So it didn't work last time. Go back. Tell them how you feel this time? Who knows, they just might be able to help you?
I've had a lot of dealings with mental health teams in the NHS recently due to illness of a family member, and they can do a great job if armed with the correct information.
 
Sam, to add to the other similar posts - the help is there if you ask for it and are honest with those trying to help you.

Unfortunately I have to section people occasionally and take them to a secure unit for an assessment. This will be if I consider them to be at risk of harming themselves or another person due to a mental health issue, which will often include suicide attempts. Many of these people will have been through the process many times before and know exactly what to say and how to present themselves to get themselves released without staying for treatment they really do need.

Basically, the NHS provides its service by consent. You can refuse treatment, whether that be a physical injury or mental health issue, and they will let you go on your way.

You have to be a long way down the road before you would be declared mentally incapable and have the treatment forced upon you, that's a place you really don't want to reach. If you know you need the help and know why you have had that help refused in the past go back and be straight with them. You seem to be fully aware your thoughts are not the norm and you need help with them, please get it.
 
My parents really do not like the whole rollercoaster thing, had a long dissuasion with my dad last night and he basically spewed a load of rubbish at me like “why can’t you have a normal hobby” and “when I was a kid I used to play football in my spare time, not rollercoaster’s”. Of course those aren’t his words, but that’s the basic interpretation of them.
Basically he mentioned that I’ve ordered my train tickets for scarefest and the room is booked, and he just kind of snapped, he calls me weird and strange regally, but that’s just having a laugh. But this time he said it very spitefully, just spat the words at me, saying things like he wished I was normal, why couldn’t he have had a normal son like Tom (next door neighbour’s kid, absolute sporting hero, straight A student, stereotypical perfect child), he also made some comments regarding ex of mine and reasoning of why she left, which was just 100% out of order. Sorry is this is all a bit of a cluttered post; to be honest it’s all a bit of a blur.
I just don’t want to even see him right now; I don’t get how the same man who drove me to the 10th birthday meet can turn around, and while unprovoked, say such horrible, spiteful things. He wants me to sign up to a boxing club, like he did when he was young (and if you have met me you will know how much of a laughable suggestion that is). And the odd thing is I really do feel as though I let him down, Get that horrible empty feeling like I have does something really wrong.
 
You haven't done anything wrong though; it's your life, not his and he has no right to force you to change your interests just as you wouldn't force him to change his interests. Theme parks are an interest that takes you wherever you want, you talk to anybody you want without feeling isolated and most importantly, it makes you happy. A majority of parents will find it peculiar because they don't see the fuss or just how you and us operate when we're just as geeky as World of Warcraft players or football enthusiasts.

If you really want to get it through to him that this is what you want, then try to talk to him now rather than bottling it all up and make it very clear that your enthusiasm lies with such an interest and he doesn't have the right to criticise or change it.

But if he doesn't listen to you then fair game, don't listen to him either :)
 
'In my day we used to fight Germans, not rave about their theme parks!'

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Ben. said:
My parents really do not like the whole rollercoaster thing, had a long dissuasion with my dad last night and he basically spewed a load of rubbish at me like “why can’t you have a normal hobby” and “when I was a kid I used to play football in my spare time, not rollercoaster’s”. Of course those aren’t his words, but that’s the basic interpretation of them.
Basically he mentioned that I’ve ordered my train tickets for scarefest and the room is booked, and he just kind of snapped, he calls me weird and strange regally, but that’s just having a laugh. But this time he said it very spitefully, just spat the words at me, saying things like he wished I was normal, why couldn’t he have had a normal son like Tom (next door neighbour’s kid, absolute sporting hero, straight A student, stereotypical perfect child), he also made some comments regarding ex of mine and reasoning of why she left, which was just 100% out of order. Sorry is this is all a bit of a cluttered post; to be honest it’s all a bit of a blur.
I just don’t want to even see him right now; I don’t get how the same man who drove me to the 10th birthday meet can turn around, and while unprovoked, say such horrible, spiteful things. He wants me to sign up to a boxing club, like he did when he was young (and if you have met me you will know how much of a laughable suggestion that is). And the odd thing is I really do feel as though I let him down, Get that horrible empty feeling like I have does something really wrong.
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Wasted his youth. Trying to live through his son. A terrible dad for comparing you to someone else's child. A terrible dad for not letting you bloom into the person that you are. He should watch his step if he wants a good relationship with you once you're an adult.

Just my hardened black-and-white view on things. Best of luck dude, honestly. :D
 
Olly said:
I just came out to my best friend, who I'm also deeply in love with.
Now he won't talk to me..
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Firstly, well done for coming out. But I'm sorry to hear it went badly. Did you tell your friend you were in love with him? Or does his rejection stem from homophobia?
 
Olly said:
I just came out to my best friend, who I'm also deeply in love with.
Now he won't talk to me..
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Hopefully it will simply be a matter of time until he returns to you, adjusting to surprising news can take a while for some people.

Two of my best friends came out at 16 and at 21 and for the rest of our friendship group it did take time to get our heads around the first case. Whilst none of us would ever be considered to be homophobes there is an unfortunate and unwarranted stigma attached to homosexuality. Whatever the reason for this (attitude towards sexuality is a topic too broad and complicated to surmise here) it is prevalent and sadly common. Our attitudes to him were never born out of negative feelings just confusion.

I know it is not your fault and is unfair on you but I can only suggest that you give him time. If he really is worth your friendship and your love then he will support you after his initial fears subside. Friendship is vital and incredibly helpful.
 
Olly,
Hopefully he will sort out the thoughts about the news that are running around his head and realize no matter what the sexuality of a friend, a friend is a friend.

Ben,
People have trouble understanding someone passion for something, if they don't have any affection for it at all. like steve my mate is a Eddie Stobart spotter, most people don't understand his passion.

I have it with my interest in Amateur radio and my enjoyment of being a member of St John.
They can't understand what i love about using radios to talk to people when there is mobiles phones and the internet.
Steve's dad told me I was wasting my Life volunteering with St John. Just like this son is with them bleeping trucks. After using my St John skills to help him, he realized it was not a waste of time.

If your dad wants to Berate you for your passion, then it is he problem not yours. If he want you to do what he did, he may be frustrated with his life and want to live though yours.
 
delta79 said:
Steve's dad told me I was wasting my Life volunteering with St John. Just like this son is with them bleeping trucks. After using my St John skills to help him, he realized it was not a waste of time.
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Ugh. Anyone who has an opinions like that should see our new advert. That'll make them think twice.

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I am in a general unhappy mood, partly because I can't go to scarefest and other things like I have to chose my upper school before the 31st of October, or pass a 13+ test to get into one of the best private schools in the country, Bedford Boys school. I am also feeling unhappy for another reason which I can't seem to figure out why.Probably just a mood swing. ???
 
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