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The I Feel Down Topic.

Wow! Bloody hell, that did work! Just had a quick browse through YouTube and my decade-long depression is cured! :D

Jesus, I better let the medical community know that the millions they spend on developing new anti-depressants and employing counsellors has been wasted. ;)
 
Sam said:
Wow! Bloody hell, that did work! Just had a quick browse through YouTube and my decade-long depression is cured! :D

Jesus, I better let the medical community know that the millions they spend on developing new anti-depressants and employing counsellors has been wasted. ;)
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Now now, it was only a suggestion for some light relief!
 
Ok. Well Sam I apologise if I was not able to make you feel better.
Delta, no need to rise to anything???, we all have our own oppinions about life and you cannot expect anyone to feel the same way about anything.
I wont be writing on this particular forum anymore because I think the subject matter is too serious now, and feel it would be better that I stick to the lighter topics. I'm not exactly great at the advice especially in something so serious.
I do hope things get better with a new year round the corner for everyone on here that is suffering.
 
My girlfriend and I have just split up after 3 months. She said we don't have that much in common, which I suppose maybe we don't. I'm not going to lie, I was very fond of her and I really wanted it to work. The fact is I've been in a state of doubt for the last month and it just wasn't worth feeling that way. A little nudge from me and she broke it up.

She's my sister's best friend so I'm going to be seeing a lot of her for a long time. I'm hoping I can get over this quickly.

I don't know what to do with myself now, feeling very alone.
 
Every time I go to my counselling appointments I have to answer multiple choice questions and I try my best to do so as honestly as possible, however at the end when the results are calculated and presented to me as a chart, it always seems to be completely opposite to my experience. In weeks when I've felt horrendously worse, I come off as less at risk but weeks when my anxiety hasn't played such a crippling role, the results show me as reaching the brink.

It's much more frustrating than it is helpful, and feels like it belittles my depression. I really hate it. Really, really hate it.
 
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Mi-Nigle said:
My girlfriend and I have just split up after 3 months. She said we don't have that much in common, which I suppose maybe we don't. I'm not going to lie, I was very fond of her and I really wanted it to work. The fact is I've been in a state of doubt for the last month and it just wasn't worth feeling that way. A little nudge from me and she broke it up.

She's my sister's best friend so I'm going to be seeing a lot of her for a long time. I'm hoping I can get over this quickly.

I don't know what to do with myself now, feeling very alone.
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Really really sorry to hear that. Was really hoping it would all work out for you, Send me a pm if you need to chat. :(

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I give up.

A few months ago, my auntie died. I loved her so much, and I haven't gotten over it. I am a soppy 12 year old whimp - I can't help it.
I am constantly being teased in school; "Loser", "Four-Eyes", "Ugly", "Nerd, "Geek", "Weirdo" etc. I don't tell my parents.
My little sister (5 years old) wants me dead. She has said to me, "I wish you were dead and I had another sister." I was crushed. She slaps, punches, pinches, bites and scratches me all the time. I am battered. She tells lies, and my parents believe her. I get grief for it. She has threatened me with a knife.
I am getting swore at and screamed at because of my bedroom. It isn't at all that messy. It isn't perfect, but I am only a teenager. It won't be perfect.
I break down crying most nights because I feel my life is going nowhere. I sit in my room all day on my laptop and I get grief for it. I am worrying about school constantly because I am a ''goody-two-shoes". I leave my friends because I am in a hurry to get to class, and they don't care. I eat by myself at lunch mostly.
I am not going anywhere with this. i will just stop here.
 
Sorry to hear of the loss of your auntie, Bethany. My condolences go to you and your family.

Bethany said:
I am constantly being teased in school; "Loser", "Four-Eyes", "Ugly", "Nerd, "Geek", "Weirdo" etc. I don't tell my parents.
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I speak from experience. Tell your parents of what is going on in school. Believe me, I never told my parents when I was bullied in school, and it lead to me self-harming and having a breakdown in the middle of a class. Bullying is something that you should never keep quiet. Bullies will continue to taunt you when they know you're not telling anyone.

I'd recommend you tell your parents and speak with a teacher you're perhaps more comfortable with than others. Or speak to your headteacher. It can vary from school to school with which teacher you decide to go to although bullying (or teasing) is taken very seriously this day in age. Even if it is not physical, it is still classed as verbal bullying. So speak to your parents, let them know what is going on and that you're now happy/feeling down over it. Also speak to a teacher that can also do something to put a stop to it.

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My little sister (5 years old) wants me dead. She has said to me, "I wish you were dead and I had another sister." I was crushed. She slaps, punches, pinches, bites and scratches me all the time. I am battered. She tells lies, and my parents believe her. I get grief for it. She has threatened me with a knife.
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I'm a bit out my depth here, as honestly this is something I have no useful advice to give. When your sister uses the term "dead" I'd think (or at least hope) she does not mean this in the real sense that you could take it in as. She is only 5, a child with a big imagination. Death when you're older becomes a more grim reality, as a child she will not be at that stage to grasp the sheer impact of death (that's not to say they would not be upset over a death, they just don't perhaps feel the impact as much).

When she says that quote of yours she, I'd like to think, means it in the way that she is unhappy with you in some way. Perhaps she is jealous of an older sister who has more freedom, you may have both had little arguments. I'm certain she does not want you dead though. Sister rivalry can get quite heated at times, I've seen that with two of my cousins who have said equally as hurtful things to one another, but they do love each other deep down.

They physical abuse from your sister, I'm very out my depth now. Perhaps try to make it more clear to your parents what is going on. I do not mean this to sound rude in any way, but to me it sounds like your parents aren't disciplining your sister as parents should usually do - and that has somewhat let your sister believe she can get away with anything.

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I am getting swore at and screamed at because of my bedroom. It isn't at all that messy. It isn't perfect, but I am only a teenager. It won't be perfect.
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I can't say much apart from, you're a teenager. Not all teens have messy rooms, not all teens have clean rooms. Your room is your place to mark who you are. Sometimes parents may want you to conform to their style of order. But then you need to be yourself, learn more about yourself and create your own way of living of which you feel comfortable in.

Bethany said:
I break down crying most nights because I feel my life is going nowhere. I sit in my room all day on my laptop and I get grief for it. I am worrying about school constantly because I am a ''goody-two-shoes". I leave my friends because I am in a hurry to get to class, and they don't care. I eat by myself at lunch mostly.
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You sound very much like myself at your age (8 years ago!). Believe me, things will get far, far better in life and you will do brilliantly when you're older!

You're just 12 years old. You've got so much ahead of you in life! There's no need for you to worry in school. There's nothing wrong with being a ''goody-two-shoes". Being in a hurry for class shows that you have a clear engagement with your education, you want to learn - and I think in today's society it's brilliant to see someone who wants to do well in their education.

On the friend side of things I would perhaps recommend you invest more time in seeing your friends. Perhaps ask them if they want to hang out after school, they go to your house, you go over theirs. When talking to them bring up things they're interested in, ask them about how they think school is going for them, about the work you're doing. But don't just solely talk about school, try to talk about things outside of school.

I hope the above is of some help. It's not often I write such lengthy pieces of advice to others, but I feel you remind me of how I was at your age, and I know how upsetting you must feel at times. So I just want you to know that you have complete control of your life, and you will do brilliantly. If you want to talk more to me about any problems you have then feel free to PM me, or get in touch via Facebook (link is in signature).

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(Apologies for any spelling mistakes/typos, it's been a long day :p )
 
Beth, you're not a wimp. You loved your aunt and your tears certainly aren't a sign of weakness; if above anything, you're strong because you care.

With the teasing, you have two choices: You report to the teachers or you ignore them. It's wrong that they are picking on you and there's no excuse especially if they call it 'joking', particularly when they're focusing on your looks, but on the other hand you're not going to know them for the rest of your life. What does their opinion matter to you? Is their petty nature so important to your life? It isn't at all. They're hiding behind harsh words to make themselves feel better and it is not your fault.

It's unfortunate that your family won't listen to the abuse from your sister, regardless of her age, and give you abuse back just because of a bedroom. It's not the most important thing in the world and it barely scratches the surface of your later exams! The most I can help on that is to sit down with them and tell them just how upset you are on everything you've said here. You're an innocent daughter and you've done nothing to deserve it.

But don't worry about being a goody-two-shoes, there's honest to heck nothing wrong with that and you will go far in life for it, being enthusiastic will help just as much! You'll be seen as dependent, reliable and hard-working. Your life will go very far even if you don't know what your path will be yet!

Don't let yourself get worked up about these issues, don't keep them bottled up, just talk to someone when you feel down or you need advice. If your school has a counselling/guidance service then go to them. If you have a family member who will listen, talk to them. Talk to us here as well though you already know that bit.

There is always somebody to listen to you and help you.
 
Do you know what, Beth?
Tell people.

For example, I told some really truthful and emotional parts of my life right in front of my class in school (depression and anger being some), and that made me feel so much better!
Without telling someone, they can't help you.

Telling us is a great start! Now, take it from there. :)
Tell your family members that you don't feel happy; that you aren't the person who you want to be. I'm sure they'll understand and will want to help, no matter who they.

Speaking from experience on some of your points, telling someone, even a friend, made my life so much better, and I'm sure it will make your life better too!

Just stay strong!
 
Wow, Bethany, your writing is brilliant for a 12 year old. Maybe people are jealous of you, as I'd guess that you do very well academically compared with most others. The evidence of your avatar proves that you're not ugly. Don't ever think that your life isn't going anywhere, I've seen this many times over the years. The truth is, the people who give you the most grief are most likely the people that will have a life that will never go anywhere, they're most likely jealous as they see that you will have a brighter future than them. Try not to ever let any of these people dent your confidence as I'm sure you know how talented you really are. School can be tough for a lot of people but I can tell you that most of the people who were branded geek etc at my school are the ones who are most well off now in their late 20's.

Have you tried having a serious discussion with your parents about your situation with your sister? A proper sit-down discussion? Maybe that could help? I don't know. Sometimes it really helps to share this type of stuff but I know it can be hard.
 
Bethany said:
A few months ago, my auntie died. I loved her so much, and I haven't gotten over it. I am a soppy 12 year old whimp - I can't help it.
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The loss of a loved one is hard, and it takes time to come to terms with. there will always be a part of you that miss them. Its not being soppy and wimpy, it called being loving.
If you are having trouble coming to terms with it, maybe you could do with talking to your GP about it or a councillor at your school

I am constantly being teased in school; "Loser", "Four-Eyes", "Ugly", "Nerd, "Geek", "Weirdo" etc. I don't tell my parents.
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Talk to a teacher you trust about it, and see what the school can do about it.

I think most members here have been bullied in school. I personally have been called a Mental dyslexic, weirdo, toxic sweat, etc, etc.

My little sister (5 years old) wants me dead. She has said to me, "I wish you were dead and I had another sister." I was crushed. She slaps, punches, pinches, bites and scratches me all the time. I am battered. She tells lies, and my parents believe her. I get grief for it. She has threatened me with a knife.
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wow, that mad. and your parents don't listen to you. I my Safeguarding training (college staff) is saying talk to your school about it. but when i read about the knife, I feeling like saying tell your school monday. knife injuries can be really bad.
It also shocks me, my step son did not pull a knife on me until he was 14.

I am getting swore at and screamed at because of my bedroom. It isn't at all that messy. It isn't perfect, but I am only a teenager. It won't be perfect.
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I used to be told off a lot about the state of my teenage bedroom. now i do the telling off :)

I break down crying most nights because I feel my life is going nowhere. I sit in my room all day on my laptop and I get grief for it. I am worrying about school constantly because I am a ''goody-two-shoes". I leave my friends because I am in a hurry to get to class, and they don't care. I eat by myself at lunch mostly.
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That is so much like my life at 12 to 14, change cry to be depressed and laptop for CB radio. and that was me at that age.

You really need to talk to someone about this, your school is the best bet, or your GP if you don't want to talk to your school about the problems.

If you want advice, you know where my PM button is.
 
Bethany said:
A few months ago, my auntie died. I loved her so much, and I haven't gotten over it. I am a soppy 12 year old whimp - I can't help it.
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I'm sorry to hear about this Beth, I do remember you telling me ages ago about it though free hugs anyway from me *hugs* and not you're not a wimp, feeling sad over someone close is completely normal and definitely doesn't make you a wimp.

Bethany said:
I am constantly being teased in school; "Loser", "Four-Eyes", "Ugly", "Nerd, "Geek", "Weirdo" etc. I don't tell my parents.
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I've photos of you, you're definitely not ugly. If they're calling you ugly because of your glasses, than just remember that some girls can still look good with them on! in fact, sometimes better! (in terms of attractiveness). Don't listen to the bullies, they'll be the ones working in McDonald's when they're older whilst you'll be successful in life. Also, you MUST tell your parents that you're being teased or this won't get solved easily.

Bethany said:
My little sister (5 years old) wants me dead. She has said to me, "I wish you were dead and I had another sister." I was crushed. She slaps, punches, pinches, bites and scratches me all the time. I am battered. She tells lies, and my parents believe her. I get grief for it. She has threatened me with a knife.
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You need to tell your Sister who's the bigger person (which is you obviously). You shouldn't tolerate her abusing you. I'd say next time she attacks you, you can show the bruises to your parents.

Bethany said:
I am getting swore at and screamed at because of my bedroom. It isn't at all that messy. It isn't perfect, but I am only a teenager. It won't be perfect.
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That is just ridiculous, they're shouting at you because your room is a bit messy? You're young! Your parents need to understand that sort of stuff!

Bethany said:
I break down crying most nights because I feel my life is going nowhere. I sit in my room all day on my laptop and I get grief for it. I am worrying about school constantly because I am a ''goody-two-shoes". I leave my friends because I am in a hurry to get to class, and they don't care. I eat by myself at lunch mostly.
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If you're crying at night because of all this, then I think you should talk to a professional about it. Keeping all bottled up won't help and it's good to let it all out!

You may leave your friends early to get to class because you're a "goody-two-shoes", but I definitely tell that it pays off. You maybe 12, but you're writing, spelling, grammar and punctuation is fantastic, I think they're just jealous because you're more intelligent then them. Don't feel bad eating lunch by yourself! I do it as well, so you're not the only one (if that helps) =)

Beth, tell someone you can trust about this problems. Seek help, remind positive and there will be a light at the end of the tunnel.

Hope this helps! =)
 
As I read eddie posting about your bullies ending up working at a fast food outlet, it reminded me of meeting a school bully at the local sewage works.

I went to the site as electrical maintenance contractor. I found out he was working there cleaning the stuff out of the filter system as he had no GCSE to his name.

I found it so funny that he said "I would be shoving bleep (biological waste) and he have a good well paid job"

It made my month :D
 
James said:
Sorry to hear of the loss of your auntie, Bethany. My condolences go to you and your family.

Bethany said:
I am constantly being teased in school; "Loser", "Four-Eyes", "Ugly", "Nerd, "Geek", "Weirdo" etc. I don't tell my parents.
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I speak from experience. Tell your parents of what is going on in school. Believe me, I never told my parents when I was bullied in school, and it lead to me self-harming and having a breakdown in the middle of a class. Bullying is something that you should never keep quiet. Bullies will continue to taunt you when they know you're not telling anyone.
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I definitely agree with telling someone as I didn't tell and ended up turning to drinking to numb it all. By not telling, they are winning.....
 
Being called names at school never bothered me that much. I wear glasses and did for all my time at school and if the best they can come up with is four eyes then they are petty thick. I challenged someone to think of something original once and they just walked off.

As for your sister, I would maybe suggest getting a web cam type thing in your room to record what goes on so you can show you parents. Video evidence is rather hard to ignore.

I would suggest talking to someone. There is a charity that you can go to called. Relate. I used them earlier this year for some problems and I feel they did help.

But I would also suggest maybe finding some clubs to join.
Aged 14 I joined my local ATC (air training corps) and really enjoyed it. Got to go gliding, flying, shooting, adventure weekends annual camps to RAF bases. It really helped me improve and helped with confidence and things like that. It was really helpful and I made some really good friends.

The other thing I did was a few years of a martial art called Aikido, again very helpful. I have never had to use it but I enjoyed doing it and met some nice people and had a good time with it.
 
I'm feeling down and angry because my next door neighbours, the Sykes, where complete numpties, my mum held a xmas dinner party/ canapés evening at ours last night invited 14 people including, the next door neighbours. I'm assuming the next door neighbours went home before some of the others along with another couple called the Stocks' and the Stocks had left her phone at ours. The Stocks got a text from Sykes and somehow my family's special police officer friend called Graham got into said phone and read the message it was only slagging my mum, Graham and her food off! I get really protective of people I care about and can see myself doing something very silly soon, like normal, I never do anything right. My mum was crying on the phone about it, but the story didn't end there...... Later that very same evening my angry Uncle went down to the next house on the Boland Estate and knocked loudly on the door until they came out. He then had a go at them forcing my Dad to go down and go get him, as you can see it's a Boland family trait to get very defensive about things. I hate seeing my mum cry and they will pay, but how? Also how could you slag someone’s food off like that, my mum is very good and we had no other complaints, I wouldn't mind if they moved away it was nice when we had the whole family on the "Estate" with my Granddad and Granny across the road and my Uncle, Aunty and cousins at the bottom. I will keep you all updated on how I will be making their lives hell.
 
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