I've been a member here for a long long time, and used to play a semi-active role in discussions until some years ago. I've got to know a lot of people, most fell by the wayside but I ended up with a niche little group that I'm perfectly happy with. The friends I kept from here are very special to me and I'm lucky to have met them. This forum enabled that to happen, as I'm sure it has many of you. However... The bullying I've witnessed and experienced on here over the years is absolutely appalling. It's not a matter of "I'm going to beat you up", or even "you're an XYZ I hate you", but more "ribbing" as mods here seem to put it. It's all just a joke that wasn't intended harshly and it sucks you got upset by it right? You must lack the constitution to participate in a discussion forum, you have no sense of humour and you don't "get it" right? It's not a joke when 20 people are laughing at someone who isn't laughing back; that is victimization and bullying. People who are banding together to descend on some poor kid or another who is trying to be liked and accepted it makes my blood boil. This is not limited to one specific forum role whatsoever. Nobody here is here because they 100% gel with the rest of the world out there; they have a niche interest that they don't share with terribly many people compared to most other hobbies. Many people here suffer from anxiety or depression. Many people here are on the autism spectrum. Things like that are always over-represented on internet forums, that's the way it's always been. It stops being a joke when 20 of you do it. There are people on here who post consistently who are mindful of others, keen to join the discussion, and respect the rules. There sadly are just as many who for some reason aren't a fan of that and constantly pick on them, and I mean constantly. It is enabled when mods issue the party line of "Can we get back on topic guys ". While the moderation was pretty good 9-10 years ago when I joined, I'm not sure what happened, but I'm astounded at what people are getting away with now. It is also enabled when the mods and admins of the TST discord don't really seem to do anything either, but that's it's own paragraph. Private messaging clearly solves nothing and is a low effort approach, it is clearly inadequate if it's even still happening any more. Rowe's Recent Post This is not a post that should need to be posted. It is indicative of a serious problem that was obviously immediately ignored. No more to say about that, it speaks for itself. MattN's Recent Thread Two replies to this without a mod message checking in with the guy would be bad. The two PAGES that have been allowed to stay up is disgusting. Whether or not a poster is bothered about the replies they get or how badly they're picked on, it doesn't make it right. The point is that it shouldn't have needed to be posted in the first place. The TST Discord Holy jesus effing tish. Awful. It's difficult to even put it into words. I lurk in there to observe for this exact reason. There are admins, mods, many of the same people who administrate the forum. Over the course of 3 pub quizzes than have occurred during lockdown, which by the way took *tremendous* effort on the part of the people who created it, I've been absolutely disgusted by some people's conduct. Again, 20 of you "joking" isn't a joke, that's harassment. Having somebody need to take a break to compose themselves or to take a break entirely from running the quiz is unacceptable. I find it pathetic that grown men and women are behaving this way. It should be added that somebody spoke up about how people were treated in the Pub Quizzes, again it was totally ignored by the staff. As staff (self-appointed or otherwise) who admin a chat based on rules they wrote out to ensure appropriate behaviour you have some level of duty of care to the people in there. You are there to enforce the rules, no matter who breaks them. You're there to kick people who are harassing people. You are there to ensure everybody has a good time. They're not having a good time. There are cliques, behind the scenes nastiness, and convenient looking the other way when certain people start playing up. Why was nobody told to pack it in during each quiz? Why was this allowed to happen? Why weren't the rules enforced? Why have rules if they're meaningless, and why are there even admins/mods besides some measure of a power trip? Why aren't staff held accountable? To conclude, the culture of bullying on here against people who just want to be accepted, no matter how annoying, is beyond unacceptable. Many of you should be absolutely ashamed. Delete this if you want, but that would only really prove my point. Don't fob me off with "use the report button *winky face*". That obviously doesn't work. In anticipation of the line "well you can't catch everything", that is completely untrue of a discussion forum where everything is spelled out in defined topics that aren't exactly infinite. You CAN catch almost everything as you have access to everything including PMs. I eagerly await your responses, especially those who get picked on. If you get bullied on here, and having watched Dar's interactions on here who has been a poster for a very long time like me there are many of you, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO TOLERATE IT, YOU DO HAVE A VOICE, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO APOLOGIZE. I don't want a response from TheTeam.jpg, just sort this out TST for f***s sake.