TheMan
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These are my considerations. I only write them, in the hope it may help some of you.
Firstly, the I Feel Down topic seems quite unusual in a forum. I've not really noted one, certainly not one as prominent, as the one on TsT. This got me considering... why?
I've jumped in there, and tried to offer some advice at points, but I feel some of the problems people discuss (quite bravely and openly) are well beyond my remit! Yes, I've done the proverbial Life Coaching, been around positive psychology and how it's applied in businesses/educational establishments etc - and quite high profile at times. I've spoken to many, many successful people over the years - with the sole idea of discovering, and helping others harness their secrets... what did they do so differently?
I expected, to find a myriad of methods, complex and enlightening or testing etc. I didn't find this at all. I found their real backgrounds to be complex, enlightening, and certainly at times testing - but the solution, their secret was simple, and pretty much unanimous.
World famous chefs, Olympic gold medalists, Sirs, Dames, Multi Platinum producers, billionaires - you name it, I met or spoke with them (all in a great cause too by the way - not for any financial gain, loss in fact lol!).
Fact is, I can count on one hand, those who had a great start. Those whose opportunities, simply fell at their feet, were almost anonymous. Maybe, it is because those whom were willing to divulge their secrets, to give generously of their time and spirit, better appreciated what they had? You'd be surprised at some in that list I can tell you!
This is a message of hope to all whom may be having a bad day or time of it right now. The simple answer is to be positive, pro-active, and determined. These are the words of those who achieved it, not mine. I use them, every day my self to try and become a better person, to achieve my dreams which now in my mid 30s, I have come very close to but not quite achieved yet! Some of which I have dedicated over 2 decades to practicing, learning and crafting.
We are never a finished article, life is never perfect, people out there can be crappy and try and get in your way - but ultimately, in the main, how we react to that is one of the most important aspects of life itself. Put simply, to be in control, of the things we're in control of!
There are a few on that page, that are overly cruel and judgmental.... to themselves, yet wonderfully kind to others? Treat your self better, not at the expense of others of course, but when you treat and appreciate the great things about you, more people will relate to that.
If you're insecure, we often write stories in our minds as to what others are thinking about us, or how much better than us they are, but I certainly realised from my work, that even those right at the top echolons of society - have had very similar experiences! One TV personality in particular, wrote to me a near entire chapter on their own insecurities as a teenager - now a millionaire, TV presenter turned multi-national production company boss, was once incredibly insecure about themselves. Some of these people went on to become friends, with l'il old me! The point of this though, is that everyone has insecurities, even those who appear hugely confident! I still do that's for sure ;D
I'm financially worse off for the experience, it took so much of my time and energy, and the project did not go to plan due to reasons I will not divulge in public (likewise the project itself).
We have as a society, become more fractious, diverse, and marginalised. It can be harder now than ever to make real friends (ironic, given modern technology and the advent of "social media") - life is more material based (much of which I like incidentally ;D), but they are the reasons that we need to now be more careful than ever, to tend to our inner feelings more.
All in all, I wonder - is our love of Themeparks, based on a need to focus on something outwardly, to distract from our innermost feelings with which we struggle? They are after all based on escapism.
Anyway, it's lovely to witness the support in that topic - I just feel I cannot sit with some knowledge/experience that may help even just one person, and not express it.
I wish you all the best, and I'll be happy to suggest some basic techniques that I my self use, or have seen others use, to help them keep focused and hopefully even just a little happier - but as always, if things get too bad, go and speak to someone, the word community was not invented because humans do well alone, we are indeed a social creature.
TheMan
Firstly, the I Feel Down topic seems quite unusual in a forum. I've not really noted one, certainly not one as prominent, as the one on TsT. This got me considering... why?
I've jumped in there, and tried to offer some advice at points, but I feel some of the problems people discuss (quite bravely and openly) are well beyond my remit! Yes, I've done the proverbial Life Coaching, been around positive psychology and how it's applied in businesses/educational establishments etc - and quite high profile at times. I've spoken to many, many successful people over the years - with the sole idea of discovering, and helping others harness their secrets... what did they do so differently?
I expected, to find a myriad of methods, complex and enlightening or testing etc. I didn't find this at all. I found their real backgrounds to be complex, enlightening, and certainly at times testing - but the solution, their secret was simple, and pretty much unanimous.
World famous chefs, Olympic gold medalists, Sirs, Dames, Multi Platinum producers, billionaires - you name it, I met or spoke with them (all in a great cause too by the way - not for any financial gain, loss in fact lol!).
Fact is, I can count on one hand, those who had a great start. Those whose opportunities, simply fell at their feet, were almost anonymous. Maybe, it is because those whom were willing to divulge their secrets, to give generously of their time and spirit, better appreciated what they had? You'd be surprised at some in that list I can tell you!
This is a message of hope to all whom may be having a bad day or time of it right now. The simple answer is to be positive, pro-active, and determined. These are the words of those who achieved it, not mine. I use them, every day my self to try and become a better person, to achieve my dreams which now in my mid 30s, I have come very close to but not quite achieved yet! Some of which I have dedicated over 2 decades to practicing, learning and crafting.
We are never a finished article, life is never perfect, people out there can be crappy and try and get in your way - but ultimately, in the main, how we react to that is one of the most important aspects of life itself. Put simply, to be in control, of the things we're in control of!
There are a few on that page, that are overly cruel and judgmental.... to themselves, yet wonderfully kind to others? Treat your self better, not at the expense of others of course, but when you treat and appreciate the great things about you, more people will relate to that.
If you're insecure, we often write stories in our minds as to what others are thinking about us, or how much better than us they are, but I certainly realised from my work, that even those right at the top echolons of society - have had very similar experiences! One TV personality in particular, wrote to me a near entire chapter on their own insecurities as a teenager - now a millionaire, TV presenter turned multi-national production company boss, was once incredibly insecure about themselves. Some of these people went on to become friends, with l'il old me! The point of this though, is that everyone has insecurities, even those who appear hugely confident! I still do that's for sure ;D
I'm financially worse off for the experience, it took so much of my time and energy, and the project did not go to plan due to reasons I will not divulge in public (likewise the project itself).
We have as a society, become more fractious, diverse, and marginalised. It can be harder now than ever to make real friends (ironic, given modern technology and the advent of "social media") - life is more material based (much of which I like incidentally ;D), but they are the reasons that we need to now be more careful than ever, to tend to our inner feelings more.
All in all, I wonder - is our love of Themeparks, based on a need to focus on something outwardly, to distract from our innermost feelings with which we struggle? They are after all based on escapism.
Anyway, it's lovely to witness the support in that topic - I just feel I cannot sit with some knowledge/experience that may help even just one person, and not express it.
I wish you all the best, and I'll be happy to suggest some basic techniques that I my self use, or have seen others use, to help them keep focused and hopefully even just a little happier - but as always, if things get too bad, go and speak to someone, the word community was not invented because humans do well alone, we are indeed a social creature.
TheMan