Discussion in 'Corner Coffee' started by Matt N, 14th Jun 2020.
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Don't apologise, tell them to get lost, don't take the forum too seriously, don't read lists, and certainly don't listen to ANYBODY on here
EDIT: Interesting that the victim of bullying has had to make a thread about how he's sorry he got bullied and he can go away if that's easier
I wouldn’t say I was bullied at all, personally; I made the thread because I was clearly annoying people in the LER thread and I wanted to set things right.
Personally, I couldnt agree more Matt.
I would say you have been well supported in managing your optimistic enthusiasm by other fellow sufferers of this minor obsession.
If you see bullying, use the report button.
Every last time.
Did I miss something? All I saw was Matt being positive about London Resort, Icon and Coronavirus while everybody else was less enthusiastic. That doesn't mean he was being bullied.
I agree with the sentiments in this thread though, it's refreshing to see Matt's positivity around here and it would be missed if he left. Just because people disagree with you doesn't mean people are annoyed with you. You don't need to apologise for having a different opinion. Different viewpoints and opinions are what makes the world more interesting
I haven't seen any suggestion of bullying? Rather, some of the discussion and back and forth in the LER thread was well presented and thoroughly researched (particularly @Craig's posts!)
No need to apologize for putting your opinions forward on here Matt, however optimistic they may be. It's also totally okay to have a heated disagreement if it gets to that point as long as it doesn't resort to personal attacks. We should all try not to take things too personally on here. I've had a fair few heated disagreements with people on here over the years but it's never stopped me from supporting other opinions from whoever it may be only a few days later. We're allowed to disagree with each others thoughts without disliking the actual person. You come across fine on here Matt but you are definitely the king of optimism
It's not just the London thread, Matt seems to have become the forum's whipping boy that people mock because they know he's extremely positive and they can get away with it.
Is it necessary to point out that he likes lots of posts? People were clamouring for a 'like' feature on the forum, now someone's using it a lot it's been deemed uncool.
Is it necessary to laugh at him for expressing thanks for a clarification? If you were having a conversation and someone just walked off after you'd given them some information, you might be a little miffed that they didn't acknowledge your reply. Why is it so annoying that someone is doing it online instead?
Is it necessary to sneer at his roller coaster preferences? We get it, you've been all over the world and ridden everything ans therefore you know best and what people should like, but some people haven't travelled that much and SHOCKINGLY people like different things.
If you can't handle a little fun being poked at you on a forum online (or, in real life for that matter) then I suggest you remove yourself from the internet - as, shock horror, it happens everywhere and it's a part of humanity. Of course every person has different tolerances - and in a community of over 3000 people every one of those will likely be represented; though to be honest I'd say @Matt N seems very resilient in his positivity as a proclaimed optimist.
I'd also hardly call the below "laughing" at someone.
As moderators we have a duty to keep the forum as clean and tidy, whilst keeping the flow of the thread going - this is merely one of those responsibilites being carried out. We have a like function which literally does exactly as you've suggested there in terms of acknowledging your reply which also doesn't result in extra posts that don't add anything to the discussion. The same goes in most cases for double posting, and posting single word replies.
In terms of "sneering" at his coaster preferences - as far as I've seen there's only been the occasional pointing out that he mentions one or two coasters quite often. Quite aside from sneering, it's just an obversation really.
If you have any tangible examples to support your claims of bullying then by all means, please send them over by PM. Posts on this forum are regularly reported and not once have I seen a single one by anyone suggesting any kind of bullying in relation to either Matt or anyone else on here - something which I feel reflects the very balanced, honest and friendly nature of our members.
In response to this thread overall though - please @Matt N - don't stop posting! You bring a lot to this forum in enthusiasm and positivity and it would genuinely be a shame to lose it.
As multiple have said; while I do appreciate people sticking up for me, I have never felt as though anyone on this forum has ever been mean to me or upset me. In fact, I’ve been rather humbled by how nice people have been to me on the whole; while I try as hard as I can to be nice to people and please people, and I hope I’ve achieved this on the forum, I know that I can often be quite a handful to deal with. Quite frankly, I’m surprised the mods haven’t banned me yet!
Your very much safe on here,
It's me that I'm surprised that the mods haven't banned yet
This is abhorrent. This post is not something that ANYBODY should feel is necessary and it should have been deleted to preserve the guy's dignity. See my post about bullying in this place. https://towersstreet.com/talk/threads/bullying-on-towers-street.5497/
How are you still here.
Some of the stuff you come out with ...
OK; this has escalated beyond what I’d ever hoped it would. I only ever intended to set right a few wrongs I made in some threads.
I really appreciate all of your kind comments and messages, so thank you very much for that. But I would just like to clarify; I am absolutely fine. I have no issue with the people on this forum or how I am treated.
At times, I admit I do feel like a bit of a pariah on these forums, but I think that’s something I should expect given my very uncommon opinions, which in most cases, deviate greatly from the status quo. And I’m honestly humbled by how accepting you’ve all been of me; as I say, I am not an easy person to deal with, and I’m very thankful that I haven’t been thrown off the site yet! As much as what I said in the London Resort thread was my personal opinion, and I couldn’t really think of what else to say that would please you guys without blatantly lying, I should really have read and considered your posts a lot more instead of being my usual stubborn self and ploughing on with hammering in my own thoughts, so for that, I apologise. My behaviour was appalling and frankly, I should have known better than to counter you guys.
I must admit that I think a lot of my problem comes from the fact that I’m autistic, so I often struggle to sense cues on the more subtle end of the social spectrum. I often take things too personally, and I struggle to recognise things like sarcasm and irony. 99% of people are lovely to me and very accepting of me, and even though things people say do hurt me a little occasionally, I don’t mind because I don’t want to ruin their fun and enjoyment, and most of the time, I probably misinterpret what they say. If it makes them happy and they enjoy doing it, then that’s all that matters to me whether I like it or not.
Let me reiterate once again; I have never personally felt unwelcome on these forums. In fact, the two forums I’m signed up to (TowersStreet and CoasterForce) are two of the places where I feel most welcome. A common symptom of ASD is being quite fixated on a certain subject, and I guess theme parks are my “special subject”, if you like. Even though I try not to, I often have a tendency to slip theme parks into my everyday conversation subconsciously; does anyone else on this forum with autism find that? The reason I like these forums so much is because they’re a reasonably friendly environment where I can talk about my “special subject” to my heart’s content, because there’s only a certain amount I can talk to my family about it (I can have the occasional chat, but they get bored and try to change the subject if I talk about it for too long, which is understandable), and I don’t really mention it at school because even though people in my year group mostly seem to like me, I fear that this hobby and the extent to which I love it is the sort of thing people will mock me for (let’s face it, very few 16-17 year olds would rather sit in their room and play Planet Coaster, talk about theme parks on an internet forum and make theme park spreadsheets than do things like go to huge parties and play things like Call of Duty and Grand Theft Auto). Even though there is the odd joke thrown my way on these forums when I don’t necessarily know it’s a joke and do take it more personally than was intended, I know very well that no one on this site intends to be mean.
So before I ramble on for too long; I am absolutely fine, and I’ve never had any problem with my treatment on this site.
"A common symptom of ASD is being quite fixated on a certain subject, and I guess theme parks are my “special subject”, if you like. Even though I try not to, I often have a tendency to slip theme parks into my everyday conversation subconsciously; does anyone else on this forum with autism find that?"
I have autism, used to feel like I should apologise, realised that people need to get over themselves and I didn't deserve that treatment. So many people on here have autism. I used to be ok with it too and if you genuinely are then that's ok! Never, ever, ever feel like you have to justify yourself though, you just don't have to.
If you're ok mate that's the only thing I'm concerned about.
It's pretty obvious your autistic and theme parks are a spin of yours, i suspect a significant number of people here are also autistic
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To add to what I said, regardless of whether or not you're ok with it, there are a lot of people on here who aren't and they need to be spoken up for.
You did not behave appallingly, overly-optimistic and always trying to find a positive isn't always bad. As you say you could have read some of the posts and thought "well, actually" but don't put yourself down like that!
It does come across a little like the Black Knight from Monty Python and the Holy Grail where even with all his limbs cut off off, it tis but a scratch and he wants to continue.
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