@Themeparksandy1981 £9,000 is a tough figure to swallow - in some ways, but you're getting a lot of product at peak time for four people.
I'd take the word 'free' out of your thinking with regards to the dining plan. It's anything but and if you use it, it's pretty good value. Between 2 of us we racked up the best part of €100 at PortAventura last night, if you think about what you'd spend eating out over two weeks it's a pretty eye watering number.
We are looking at Disney for 2020 at the moment and haven't found it hugely different than in previous years but our booking profile is quite different to yours in terms of resort, school holidays, number of nights etc.