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The I Feel Down Topic.

I took Friday off because I physically couldn't face going in and emailed my personal tutor so just hoping to hear back from her so I can get sorted out.
The plan will probably be to see what happens on results day and make my decisions then surrounding uni, I would just love for someone at college to tell me I'm doing okay and make me feel better but I doubt that will ever happen haha.
 
Watch a series of yes minister.
First thing my first year degree politics tutor told us to do.
Don't let the buggers get you down, they don't mark your exams.
 
LOL no need, just splash your face with water before going in and start coughing, they'll soon take notice and stop being arses.
 
See you'd think college would improve after I've cried in front of most of my teachers, but not at all. Might just drop out of college and move to Timbuktu.
 
Colleges are funded for the next year based on their student number on a given day.

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When I went to college, most of the teachers seemed quite unprofessional and generally seemed to look down on everyone else...
It was as if they had formed their own elite class, it was bizarre!

Anyway, that's kind of irrelevant...
I, also had a brake down in college, I doubt its THAT rare...
You need something to keep yourself grounded, doesn't matter what it is, you just need something, for me, it was writing stories but it doesn't need to be an activity, just some kind of focal point for you mind...(that's the best explanation I can come up with at 3am...sorry)
 
I did my AS-Levels then dropped out and went to college to study just computing. I realised I had gotten to the age where I didn't feel like I needed to learn History, Sociology, IT, General Studies and World Development.

I know at that time I felt like every decision I made was going to be life changing and set the course for my life. But realistically it is just a drop in the ocean. Do what you need to get yourself comfortable and if that is to drop out and study just 1 subject then you'll feel a lot happier going deeper into that 1 area than trying to balance multiple subjects.
 
Well. I’m having one of those nights and just need to vent a little.

For some perspective; I’m averaging 70hrs a week at work, working for a nationwide roadside breakdown company. For annomity reasons I won’t say which colour, but it’s one of the major three.

And I’m tired. So damn tired. I’m working so damn much to support my partner and step son and run the house. I’m the sole provider of the house hold, but it seems like no matter how much over time I put in the banks always empty at the end of the month.

The only true holiday I’ll of had for 6 years is my upcoming ATR trip with my partner, that may not even happen currently with Covid19 around. And if it does, what if she doesn’t enjoy herself? I’ve put so much into trying to make it perfect and I’m sure she’ll appreciate it. I think anyway. It’s hard to tell sometimes yknow?

I moved over 300mi away from my immediate family, to a place unknown to me at the time to escape from the emotions that I was constantly feeling down in my home town since I lost my Mum and Grandmother. I’ve made one friend up here. Just one. Who doesn’t bother half the time. I mean, I can’t blame him. I’m always at work, right?

I’m sick of my step son not appreciating anything. And I know that sounds horrible, and I don’t expect gods gracious gift from him cause I’m a step parent, but there’s literally zero appreciation. Everything’s an argument. Nothings ever good enough. Kid turns 8 this year, and nothing we do, or I provide, is enough.

I’m tired guys, so very tired. I apologise for the rant, just needed to vent.


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@USLShadow i am a step parent too. I know that feeling. My step kids did not appreciate what i did. It is only years later, when they looked back and released what i did for them.


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delta79 said:
@USLShadow i am a step parent too. I know that feeling. My step kids did not appreciate what i did. It is only years later, when they looked back and released what i did for them.


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I think the same could be said, to an extent, for all children. I'm 20 and already look back and realise how ungrateful I was for what my parents did for me.

Does your partner like roller coasters? Even if she doesn't I'm sure she'd enjoy the time with you and will appreciate the effort you put in to make it happen. Fingers crossed it works out for you!
 
speedy said:
I think the same could be said, to an extent, for all children. I'm 20 and already look back and realise how ungrateful I was for what my parents did for me.

Does your partner like roller coasters? Even if she doesn't I'm sure she'd enjoy the time with you and will appreciate the effort you put in to make it happen. Fingers crossed it works out for you!
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She doesn’t know because she’s never been on any so it’s a risky move.

To be fair looking back at how I behaved I wasn’t the best, it just gets tiring you know?




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delta79 said:
@USLShadow i am a step parent too. I know that feeling. My step kids did not appreciate what i did. It is only years later, when they looked back and released what i did for them.


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Just gotta wait it out and hope the penny drops


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BeccaH said:
They got outstanding in the recent Ofsted inspection, fat load of truth that is...
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So did my son's school, that hasn't stopped them having double figures of attempted suicides, having outstanding doesn't mean it's a nice place to be. As @DiogoJ42 said, life is so much easier when you don't give a frak. What's the worst that can happen if you fail the course? You can re-sit it? Go get a job? You're gonna have to do that eventually anyway and having 15 letters after your name won't guarantee you won't end up flipping burgers at McDonalds either (my wife's friend used to work in McD, she has more letters after her name than is in it, but finds life is so much easier to do that than what her chosen career was.

You never know, the longer you stay in full time non-university education, the happier your parents might be as you're putting off the inevitable, my other sister (RIP) her kid dropped out of college and has never been so miserable since.

speedy said:
I think the same could be said, to an extent, for all children. I'm 20 and already look back and realise how ungrateful I was for what my parents did for me.
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Yeah, all children are ungreatful fraks until they grow up. However I do find constantly giving them everything they want and never saying no doesn't help matters either. My son has been told no, quiet often, he generally appreciates what little he has and says please and thank you. My sister-in-law who is 20 years younger than me, was given everything, never told no, because he mum felt guilty over the way she had bought up my wife, so the younger sibling got everything.

As a result she is a self centered, self obsessed NPD exhibiting bitch, but has bought her son up the same way (given him everything, never said no), he has spent so little time in school he can barely speak properly even though he is nearly 13 now, has no respect for anything or anyone, and has been through more phones than I've had hot dinners (becuase the phones get smashed when he doesn't get his way), and although they didn't grace us with their presence (thankfully) when visiting the area the other week, they did go to an old friend of hers and we heard that when she (my sister-in-law) said no to him becuase he wanted to go outside, he punched her.

So yeah, let that be a lesson to you on what happens if you never say no to a child (extreme example, I know) and as already said, life is so much easier when you don't give a frak what others think, do or expect of you, I'm self employed and have two phones, one for work, one for pleasure, I turn the work one off at 5pm every day and don't have an answer machine on it, plus it goes off at 5 on a Friday and isn't switched on again until 9am Monday, I make time for myself and my family, if people don't like that I'm not at their beck and call 24/7, tough titties.
 
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So did my son's school, that hasn't stopped them having double figures of attempted suicides, having outstanding doesn't mean it's a nice place to be. As @DiogoJ42 said, life is so much easier when you don't give a frak. What's the worst that can happen if you fail the course? You can re-sit it? Go get a job? You're gonna have to do that eventually anyway and having 15 letters after your name won't guarantee you won't end up flipping burgers at McDonalds either (my wife's friend used to work in McD, she has more letters after her name than is in it, but finds life is so much easier to do that than what her chosen career was.

You never know, the longer you stay in full time non-university education, the happier your parents might be as you're putting off the inevitable, my other sister (RIP) her kid dropped out of college and has never been so miserable since.



Yeah, all children are ungreatful fraks until they grow up. However I do find constantly giving them everything they want and never saying no doesn't help matters either. My son has been told no, quiet often, he generally appreciates what little he has and says please and thank you. My sister-in-law who is 20 years younger than me, was given everything, never told no, because he mum felt guilty over the way she had bought up my wife, so the younger sibling got everything.

As a result she is a self centered, self obsessed NPD exhibiting *****, but has bought her son up the same way (given him everything, never said no), he has spent so little time in school he can barely speak properly even though he is nearly 13 now, has no respect for anything or anyone, and has been through more phones than I've had hot dinner, and although they didn't grace us with their presence when visiting the area the other week, they did go to an old friend of hers and we heard that when she (my sister-in-law) said no to him becuase he wanted to go outside, he punched her in the face.

So yeah, let that be a lesson to you on what happens if you never say no to a child, and as already said, life is so much easier when you don't give a fear what others think, do or expect of you, I'm self employed and have two phones, one for work, one for pleasure, I turn the work one off and don't have an answer machine on it, if people don't like that I'm not at their beck and call 24/7, tough titties.
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The problem I have on the face of the step son is his blood father doesn’t say no, where as perticularly me, but me and the partner do, so it’s like a constant never ending battle with it aha.

@BeccaH Ofsted is also the biggest load of steaming poop I’ve ever seen in my life. They wouldn’t know the difference between a good school and a poor one if it hit them in the face. Most of there rating is based on the paper work behind the scenes anyway.


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