The I Feel Down Topic.

[spotweld]

Good luck for the future. Hopefully you've not done any serious long term damage and can come back from it fully by cutting the bad habits down. Getting into that situation is not uncommon. Don't beat yourself up about it, and just concentrate on living a more healthy lifestyle.

Thank you so much Barry.

 

[BarryZola]

Thank you so much Barry.

You're welcome

 

[East Coast Mariner]

Sorry to hear that, @spotweld. It might not help, but I do believe we can lift ourselves out of the absolute worst situations. Anything's possible, in my opinion. I like to think the human body can completely regenerate if we genuinely take a good look at ourselves and address what needs changing. People might say I'm wrong, but I try to be an optimist, and I've also known individuals to bounce back from the most terrible things. Chin up.

 

[spotweld]

Sorry to hear that, @spotweld. It might not help, but I do believe we can lift ourselves out of the absolute worst situations. Anything's possible, in my opinion. I like to think the human body can completely regenerate if we genuinely take a good look at ourselves and address what needs changing. People might say I'm wrong, but I try to be an optimist, and I've also known individuals to bounce back from the most terrible things. Chin up.

I completely agree. Thank you.

 

[owenstreet7]

I'm going to be open up on here and I'm absolutely heartbroken, I've been in a relationship with a fellow enthusiast for the last month

We both got on very very well, his humour is amazing and I absolutely thought he was a blast

Last week, he put me on a break due to anxiety which ended up in a break up which was triggered by a Batman GIF.

So he cut me out of his birthday plans and after his birthday trip, he ends up putting "Soon " on relationship on his discord profile. He then tonight ends up getting back with his ex.

I then am really hurt so I end up blocking him and messaged the talking stage I've had before getting with him that ended badly, I've messaged him and gave him my number for him to follow up with me on WhatsApp. It's low risk but if he replies, it'll be worth a shot.

I am in a bit of a frantic mood right now but I'm really really upset about it all

Absolutely heartbroken by it all...

I am honestly nearly done with relationships, I don't want to keep getting my heart broken with LGBT dating...

Well, I'm gonna brace myself from an absolute honking from @GooseOnTheLoose but I have an update on this situation

So fast forward to the start of February and the situation has calmed down, that lad got back in contact with me and his ex is out of the picture (no further comment needed).

Two weeks later and he says he's happy to get back into things as long as it's slow. I've agreed as unfinished business...

With ups and downs, a few mental health struggles and a few weeks later, fast forward to Blackpool Opening Weekend (whom he asks to stay in my hotel room).

So he supports me through falling out with a fellow enthusiast who's made derogatory comments about the CoasterBreaks community although he friend zones me due to distance. I'm from the South and he's from the North.

That same lad invited me to Thorpe Opening Weekend and problem is he booked the Thorpe Shark Hotel for the night before opening weekend and he got Unlimited FT. See more on Thorpe Park thread... He hangs around with me during SLKSTN locked in and agrees to use our one shots together during both Friday and Saturday. Re: Saturday, his friend got RAP for her and one other person...

We've had a few squabbles the weeks coming up to opening weekend, mental health is mentioned a few times and with a big IOU on my part whom he owes me... I'm still no closer to sorting out a Thorpe day with him or getting my money back. He couldn't get back to the North so he stayed in my hotel room...

Thursday he says he's ready to give it another go, I shouldn't have but I agreed... We arrange to meet for the weekend, he asks again to stay in the room with me.

What happens next, he decides to leave me midway through Saturday... Monday, he friendzones me again seemingly permanently... Citing that I've rushed it again and he felt uncomfortable...

Last night and today, we've had a very tense argument about what happened and bought up everything of the above. He's reacted in a defensive way dismissing my perspective especially about his ex and then said "I’m just gonna go my own way it only feels right at this point going forward" in the heat of the moment. I think I've killed our friendship for good... We've had a tense conversation about getting my money back and we left it at that.

Later tonight he kicked me out of his shared discord server, unfollowed my Instagram after I've posted a story about a Plopsaland trip next week, I've kicked him out of a shared group chat and then he blocked me.

That boy's done it this time and he's shattered my heart into many pieces... I just wish he'd understand how I'm feeling...

About the other person I messaged that day, he never replied

Now I'm done with dating and that lad finally!!! There's no coming back at the moment and I'm done, can't be bothered any longer for any more cycles.

I'm gonna brace myself for why did you go back to your ex and some aggressive honkings

 

[GooseOnTheLoose]

Well, I'm gonna brace myself from an absolute honking from @GooseOnTheLoose but I have an update on this situation

So fast forward to the start of February and the situation has calmed down, that lad got back in contact with me and his ex is out of the picture (no further comment needed).

Two weeks later and he says he's happy to get back into things as long as it's slow. I've agreed as unfinished business...

With ups and downs, a few mental health struggles and a few weeks later, fast forward to Blackpool Opening Weekend (whom he asks to stay in my hotel room).

So he supports me through falling out with a fellow enthusiast who's made derogatory comments about the CoasterBreaks community although he friend zones me due to distance. I'm from the South and he's from the North.

That same lad invited me to Thorpe Opening Weekend and problem is he booked the Thorpe Shark Hotel for the night before opening weekend and he got Unlimited FT. See more on Thorpe Park thread... He hangs around with me during SLKSTN locked in and agrees to use our one shots together during both Friday and Saturday. Re: Saturday, his friend got RAP for her and one other person...

We've had a few squabbles the weeks coming up to opening weekend, mental health is mentioned a few times and with a big IOU on my part whom he owes me... I'm still no closer to sorting out a Thorpe day with him or getting my money back. He couldn't get back to the North so he stayed in my hotel room...

Thursday he says he's ready to give it another go, I shouldn't have but I agreed... We arrange to meet for the weekend, he asks again to stay in the room with me.

What happens next, he decides to leave me midway through Saturday... Monday, he friendzones me again seemingly permanently... Citing that I've rushed it again and he felt uncomfortable...

Last night and today, we've had a very tense argument about what happened and bought up everything of the above. He's reacted in a defensive way dismissing my perspective especially about his ex and then said "I’m just gonna go my own way it only feels right at this point going forward" in the heat of the moment. I think I've killed our friendship for good... We've had a tense conversation about getting my money back and we left it at that.

Later tonight he kicked me out of his shared discord server, unfollowed my Instagram after I've posted a story about a Plopsaland trip next week, I've kicked him out of a shared group chat and then he blocked me.

That boy's done it this time and he's shattered my heart into many pieces... I just wish he'd understand how I'm feeling...

About the other person I messaged that day, he never replied

Now I'm done with dating and that lad finally!!! There's no coming back at the moment and I'm done, can't be bothered any longer for any more cycles.

I'm gonna brace myself for why did you go back to your ex and some aggressive honkings

Oh, Owen. Please lower your guard and take a deep breath. There will be absolutely no aggressive honking today. I can lend you a sympathetic wing instead.

You don't need a lecture. You're already beating yourself up enough. Going back to someone who's hurt you doesn't make you foolish and it certainly doesn't make you weak. It shows that you have a huge heart, a capacity for forgiveness and a genuine hope to see the best in people... even when they've been utter dog poos. Those are beautiful qualities to have, even if they occasionally leave you vulnerable to those who don't share them.

When we're emotionally invested in someone it's incredibly difficult to see the situation objectively. We need to look at the cold, hard facts of their actions, rather than the words, they used to string you along.

He reached out when it suited him. He repeatedly used your generosity to secure free hotel rooms at Blackpool and Thorpe Park. He owes you money. He offered breadcrumbs of romance ("unfinished business", "give it another go") precisely when it was geographically and financially convenient for him to have a place to stay for an opening weekend. Then the absolute moment you held him accountable and the situation required actual emotional maturity, he lashed out, blamed you for "rushing it" and hit the block button.

That's not a partner, Owen. That's not even a friend. That is a parasite taking advantage of your kindness and your feelings to subsidise his theme park trips.

It feels like your heart is shattered right now, and the sting of rejection is always blindingly painful, but when the dust settles, I want you to look at what you have actually lost... Nothing other than a source of constant anxiety, a financial drain, a fountain of mixed signals and an emotional manipulator.

You have every right to feel hurt, angry and exhausted. Mourn the potential of what you wanted it to be, but please do not mourn the reality of what it actually was. You deserve someone who's excited to be with you, who respects your boundaries and who pays their own way. You do NOT deserve to be treated as a convenient AirBnB with benefits.

Take a break from dating. Focus on yourself. Go on your trip to Plopsaland next week, ride The Ride to Happiness until you actually start to feel it, and enjoy the absolute freedom of not having to carry around someone else's heavy emotional baggage.

We'Ve all been there, my friend. We've all ignored the red flags because we were looking through rose Tinted glasses. Just be exceptionally kind to yourself this week.

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