The problem in this community at the moment is that there is an insatiable demand for evidence to back up everything that is said, even when it is unlikely that any hard evidence is likely to exist. Basically there seems to be little trust or respect between most members. This causes all sorts of problems in cases like this when the very best we're ever going to have is anecdotal evidence (that is of course unless Ian Crabbe has a complete nervous breakdown and forwards the entire contents of his inbox to the complete member-list).
A few year's ago what would have happened in this situation is that someone by now would have posted what had happened, and a friendly discussion would have ensued, basically taking that what that member had stated was most likely to be true (unless there was strong contradictory evidence).
What happens now is that if someone had been told what had happened and posted that in the forum, there would be a couple of posts friendly discussing what had been posted, before the evidence brigade piled in either demanding evidence (where no evidence will ever exist), saying the original member is talking rubbish (despite not knowing any better themselves) or just mocking (because mocking is entirely conducive to a free and frank exchange of information).
My point is, if someone did know what had happened and posted it here, there would be little point because they would be more or less sidelined or ignored. It's a shame really.