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The I Feel Down Topic.

So you can take the mick without showing it.
I wonder what would happen if others 'needs to stretch' would they be told to sit down, or be allowed to walk around the class room. ;)
 
^this is something that I think, but they would probe just tell me to sit down, shut up and carry on, this is from experience as well, and it is apparent that there is a bit of favouritism from staff to pupils, so I never get favoured, meh, I don't say as much in classes I would if I was favoured, lol
 
Can't work myself out tonight basically changing from emotional to depressive this is when I need somebody in my life
 
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In my experience, that just makes you even more moodswingy, as then you have TWO people to try and make sense of :p
What you need is another pint ;)
 
After a good few weeks, lots of socialising, having fun at my work Christmas night out last night...today my anxiety has kicked in. I have no idea why. I was fine, relaxed, happy. Went to Tesco with the husband, and halfway round I just started feeling horrible. That awful, nauseating feeling of butterflies in my stomach, being short of breath, shaky :( It's bothering me so much because I just can't figure out why it happened all of a sudden. I feel so unsettled tonight.

Sorry, this just sounds like a moan. Maybe it should have gone in the moaning topic. :/
 
^ Don't let that set you back Amy! You have been amazing dealing with your anxiety, especially attending the TST Fireworks meet on your own. You know you can do it, hopefully this is just a small episode and you'll come back stronger than ever. :)

Now I'm not feeling down as such, this is more an annoyance. I just wonder how my life would be like without everything happening all at once, or come crashing down on me. Eurgh, I can honestly say that I haven't got a clue what is going to be happening in 2014. I thought I knew where I was going, and now I don't know anymore. :S
 
Am starting to get home sick now at uni, I know its only a week until I go home, but I am missing my family loads right now.
 
^ don't bother find somebody who respects you within the relationship

Can't think of anything else to say sorry hope it helps
 
M1ke, from remembering my younger experiences in relationships, it sounds more like a case of lust rather than love. Whilst you may have strong feelings for this girl, you shouldn't allow your heart to rule your head in thinking the loss of her in your life will be the worst thing ever because, to be honest, it won't be. She clearly shows no kind of effort in response to your feelings and that behaviour isn't something to love about anybody.

I honestly agree with the two posts above and recommend that you leave her because nobody deserves to be in a relationship with little to no mutual respect. If she isn't showing you the care and attention you've been giving her then obviously she isn't worth your time or effort whatsoever; there is evidently no communication from her side what with not having the decency to even talk to you.

Remember that you're still young (with hormones running rampant like any teenager) and she won't be the first nor last person you have strong feelings for, in fact you'll probably forget about her in 10 years when you're in a much happier and fulfilling relationship. But give yourself the time to grieve out the loss as it is always a tough time at first to be rifted from somebody you initially really liked.

I hope that helps :)
 
Having a bit of a meltdown tonight.

I'm 29, I'll be 30 in less than 6 months, and I'm still unable to negotiate social relationships for more than a few weeks without making a total cock-up of it.

I want (and have always wanted) nothing more than to be liked and have friends. But I always make a mess of it. I can't even be bothered writing about it properly now I've started. I'm exhausted, and fed up of trying. It always just ends up with me in this state: sitting at home, drinking wine, crying and feeling completely horrible about myself. I give up. The few weeks of feeling great about life aren't worth feeling like this when I inevitably make a mess of it.
 
There's nothing worse than feeling socially inadequate, and we've all been there at times wondering how on earth to make friends. My first real friends came when I joined uni (with the exception of one that I went to uni with), and I consider myself very grateful to still have a strong group of friends around me.

You've done the right thing by joining TST as they are a lovely group of people who are always welcoming.

I will ask however, have you considered seeing a doctor? The way you've described feeling is not a healthy way for anybody to feel, and as terrified as you might be, speaking to your GP could help with advice on anxiety, depression and stress. And thta doesn't have to mean tablets but they can refer you on for CBT sessions which help train you to change the way you see situations
 
I'm on some awful treatment for a side effect of my IBS. It's the second time I've used it, and I'm dreading being on it for the next 8 weeks. It basically thins my blood to help 'heal' things, but this triggers migraines and my entire body to tense up, further exacerbating my IBS
 
Nick said:
josht said:
^ don't bother find somebody who respects you within the relationship
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I'm afraid I agree.
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If you've genuinely found it THAT simple to resolve problems along those lines ('Oh, this doesn't seem to be working out, I'll just... find another, nicer one) then I have to say, I'm envious. It doesn't work like that in my experience.

I'll read Mike's post properly later - I didn't find it easy, mainly because it reminded me of... me aged 21, and I remember ALL those confusing feelings of emptiness, worthlessness, anger, depression etc. only too well - in fact, it's some consolation to know there's more than one girl in the world that acts like that.

What I will say though, is that I let her go, and 4 years on, I've still not forgiven myself.
Don't let anyone tell you that just because someone walks all over you, and you're probably better off without someone, doesn't mean that losing them won't feel like the worst thing ever - and even people with psychology qualifications have failed to explain to me why that is.

In the meantime, make sure she knows how you're feeling, and equally be mindful of how she's feeling - be sensitive, and make sure she knows you're thinking of her, but not to the point of becoming tiresome and pushing her away.
If she goes quiet for a few days, just... do what you can to keep yourself sane, and she'll probably start talking again when she wants you.
And probably the most important thing to avoid is letting it affect how you are when you're together. If your mood's constantly down and out, and all you want to talk about is relationship difficulties and how they're making you feel, it doesn't take a genius to tell you that she's going to lose interest. And no, I know it's not always easy.
 
Amy_D said:
Having a bit of a meltdown tonight.

I'm 29, I'll be 30 in less than 6 months, and I'm still unable to negotiate social relationships for more than a few weeks without making a total cock-up of it.

I want (and have always wanted) nothing more than to be liked and have friends. But I always make a mess of it. I can't even be bothered writing about it properly now I've started. I'm exhausted, and fed up of trying. It always just ends up with me in this state: sitting at home, drinking wine, crying and feeling completely horrible about myself. I give up. The few weeks of feeling great about life aren't worth feeling like this when I inevitably make a mess of it.
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I know how you feel to an extent. I always mess up when I try making friends and then just moping around crying.I just end up in a "CBA" mood and stop trying. Although I have rather more time to fix things like making friends as Im young and have years ahead of me. Just remember you always have us 'orrible lot ;) I also was going to mope about not being able to make lasting friends, but Amy explained how it feels perfectly. No need to double post.
 
Feeling shattered and extremely fat / unhealthy at the moment. Really have to lose some weight and get into shape so I can maintain my current lifestyle into my later 20's.

Granted my current mood hasn't been helped by a nasty virus and having the holy mother of all hangovers / comedowns as a result of Friday night, but even so, blurgh.
 
M1ke said:
Any advice would be majorly appreciated, sorry for the endless paragraph of whinge I don't usually do this kinda thing it's just I don't really have a clue what to do? X
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I'm going to go right against anything anyone has said here. Dude, you are 17, this lass sounds a bit of a headcase. I should know, I dated a few! Do you know what though? A few years down the line, you will be glad you had these experiences because these will become memories you look back and laugh about when you finally meet the person you are meant to be with, or realise the kind of person that you want in life.

I went out with this girl once, she was a right hottie! (Sorry ladies) Little pretty blonde, big boobs, absolutely gorgeous she was but OH MY WORD what a handful! I remember one night out with her friend and my friend in the snow, all of a sudden, she ran off and jumped in a strangers car they drove off for a bit, she then jumped out of the car and hid in a hedge with her friend. There were many strange things, that was just one of so many random oddities.

A couple of months I dated this lass for, at the time you don't know what the heck to do!! I'd fallen for this girl she was actually very sweet at times, but like what you describe totally unpredictable. The thing is, you will have many different dating experiences, it helps you to define what exactly it is that you want in a partner.

I know this may sound absolutely bonkers mate, but enjoy the chaos whilst it lasts, I guarantee as the years pass, these are things you will look back at with your friends and laugh about.
 
EuroSatch said:
There's nothing worse than feeling socially inadequate, and we've all been there at times wondering how on earth to make friends. My first real friends came when I joined uni (with the exception of one that I went to uni with), and I consider myself very grateful to still have a strong group of friends around me.

You've done the right thing by joining TST as they are a lovely group of people who are always welcoming.

I will ask however, have you considered seeing a doctor? The way you've described feeling is not a healthy way for anybody to feel, and as terrified as you might be, speaking to your GP could help with advice on anxiety, depression and stress. And thta doesn't have to mean tablets but they can refer you on for CBT sessions which help train you to change the way you see situations
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Thank you for this reply :) It's nice to see that I'm not alone.

I finally went to see my GP about my anxiety about a year and a half ago. I spent most of last year having CBT, and although I know it's great for some people, it was awful for me. I ended up being anxious about my anxiety! Each session got worse. Eventually I went on medication earlier this year, and it's been life-changing for me. The way I described feeling above, used to be how I felt all of the time, or for extended periods. Now that's just a wobble. I'm so worried that I'm going to make a mess of things though, which puts me into a state of anxiety meaning I'm more likely to actually do something stupid, if that makes sense?

Anyway, you're right. TST has been amazing for me so far. And I'd never have been able to join or go on meets if it wasn't for the medication, so I have that to be thankful for.
 
I am getting more annoyed at my school with the same person, the school say they can't tell him to be quiet, sit down, leave me alone, because of funding (ikr)

He is now constantly shouting my name repeatedly and is audible throughout the school (it only has 20 pupils, it's a stop school thats there to "help" people like me and this guy) and none of the staff bother to call him away from me and my circle of friends, or tell him to at least be quiet. And this is throughout lessons and breaks, I cannot get away from it, I cannot cope with the thought of school and actually want to refuse to go in, and I used to love this school before he turned up!

Another thing to note is favouritism, you can say that you would never see that, but the staff will give this pupil full packets of blue tac(!) that cause him to be louder, but I cannot even ask to use a quiet stress ball when I am angry, You can say "but he has needs" well so do I! and the way he is acting IS NOT down to his disability, he has been bought there that if he complains he will get what he wants!

I will stop ranting now, but my parents are constantly telling me that I have to deal with it myself, and I do not have any confidence in myself and cannot say anything to any of the staff or tell him to shut up as I know I would be told that I am in the wrong and nothing would happen :(

(sorry for the second rant, the problem has intensified like you wouldn't believe!)
 
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