The I Feel Down Topic.

Discussion in 'Corner Coffee' started by Adam, 13th Jun 2012.

  1. Burbs

    Burbs TowersStreet Team Team Member

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    Feeling more emotional than down having seen my dad for the first time since I came out as gay to him earlier this week.
     
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    How did it go Tom?
     
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    It went fine, he says he supports me and genuinely seems to, but wants me to completely open up to him instantly, which I just can't do. I'm still getting my head around the fact that he knows.
     
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    It good that your dad understands. He may be asking you to be completely open with him so he can fully get his head around it and get to know the new side of his son.
     
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    It's going to take time for both of you to get used to it, Tom. I completely get that he wants you to be more open to him. Wanting you to do that instantly is a bit much at the moment, IMO. Kudos for coming out to him, though - it must've taken a lot of guts, and I think I said to you last night that I wish I had the same amount of guts that you did to come out, although I am aware that my situation's a bit different to yours.
     
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    For those that don't know, I've been in Germany all week while he has back in the UK, and the group I was with met up with our German "partners" as a short exchange visit, if you like. I texted him that night saying that my partner, Claus, was really sweet, and the use of the word 'sweet' obviously triggered something within my dad, leading him to say '...sweet. Where has the come from?'

    His text was on my mind all day on Wednesday whilst we were in Berlin, and I felt that I wanted to get it off my chest and come out to him, so I texted him that night and he replied in a positive manner. However, last night he brought it up and I just burst into tears about the whole situation, yet he reinforced that he's always there to support me.

    He was also saying that I've not talked to him a lot over the last 7/8 months about emotional issues, such as my mum passing away in July of last year and this too. I'm just in a bit of an awkward situation at the moment.
     
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    My parents were in tears too - on a few occasions - and it took some months but in the end was fine.

    Coming out (to immediate family) at 15 is early so kudos that you've felt like doing so - i did it at 20 and many are older still.

    It will be fine over time, just give him space to take stock of everything.

    :)
     
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    @Tom.B I'm really glad your dad was supportive, that's great :)
     
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    Coming out can be hard and stressful for all involved, but it's truly fantastic to hear that your father is being supportive.
     
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    I wish I could give people a day trip into my mind. the only problem is alton would want it for scarefest.
     
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    Sacrificing life for a uni course you don't want with ridiculous commutes on top is soul destroying.....
     
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    No matter how hard I try, my workload never seems to go down :(
     
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    Last night, I discovered some rather sad news. A friend of mine back in St Austell, who has been suffering a lot with illness for several years (I'm not 100% sure what it is, but I think it's something to do with her oesophagus), is likely to die within the next few days. It's news that we've been expecting for some time, but it really does sound like this is it for her. She's had countless operations to try and sort out whatever this illness that's been plaguing her is, but unfortunately, they just haven't worked as well as had been hoped. She's apparently at home now with her family, and has been spending time at the local hospice. Even though it's been known that this may happen for quite some time, it still doesn't make it any less upsetting for her friends and family. Yes, it's sad that she is probably going to shuffle off this mortal coil very soon, but in a way, it's good that her suffering finally seems to be at an end.
     
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    I don't know what it is lately but I seem to be doing or wanting to do everything at 100mph. I feel like I can't cap it, the need to rush everything is always there. I don't know if this comes from the past when I felt I needed to be perfect for everything and everyone.

    I just hope this urge comes to a bit of a slow down soon.
     
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    I mentioned to a few people on opening meet that I had started dating someone. We spent some time together since then and last night she messaged me basically telling me she didn't see things going any further as she didn't see me more than a friend. It was a really nice message and she wanted to still be friends and I deserved to know the truth of how she felt. I respect her honesty and telling me now rather than later and I still want to be friends despite this I'm still upset.
    My emotions have been all over the place at work last night but seamed to level out during the last half of my shift. I'm now at home and I'm in tears again.
    This isn't the first time someone hasn't felt the same way about me as I do them, the last 3 people I started seeing over the past few years ended in the same way but It doesn't seam to get any easier and I'm a mess over it every time. I'm starting to question if their is something wrong with my personality or the way I act that isn't desirable on more than a friend level.
    I've just had enough of feeling so lonely and being on my own, it's been 4 years since my last relationship ended. Maybe it's time I just gave up, at least it would stop myself from setting myself up just to fall to pieces again when things don't work out.
     
  17. bluesonichd

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    Use them and dump them before they do it to you. Single life is the way to be. monogamous relationships dont exist. No regrets :)
     
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    That is the worst 'advice' you can give. It's idiots like that who cause pain and misery to genuinely nice people. Quite a disgusting thing to do, actually.
     
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    Saying Im not nice? :( Single Life is the way to be, I know,
     
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    If the boot fits...
    Be single if you desire, but don't be a douche about it.
     

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