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The I Feel Down Topic.

The theory test is a waste of time.

All it is, for the questions it's a memory test. As long as you remember the answers you're fine - I was given the official DSA book with every single question and answer to the theory test! All I had to do was memorise it and ta-da, you pass. The hazard perception is all about learning how the computer system works. As long as you learn when the computer wants you to click then ta-da, you've passed that.

The theory test is not a test, it's just learning all the answers and how to work the system. The DSA do everything they can though to trick students so they fail it, only to grab another load of money from you.

Sitting in front of a screen is not learning the highway code, or hazard perception. Being out there, on the road is the real learning curve. The feel of the car, indicating, looking behind you, looking in blind spots, using the pedals, changing gears, the weather... driving is far more complex than sitting in front of a screen. I find the current system very flawed. Learner drivers need more preparation in hands on experience of driving - and even then, some newly qualified drivers need to know that just by passing your test doesn't mean you know everything.
 
Going a little bit off topic?

Atleast the test shows you've read the highway code... Which from what I've seen many drivers haven't.

Don't worry you'll pass next time! I failed part one of my bike test 5 or 6 times before I passed, and part 2 once!

Dont give up, you'll be a better driver because of it and getting that liscence will be one of the most satisfying feelings you can get!

Stay confident! :D

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Not 'down', as such. More irritated. I'm posting this from my phone as my parents are crushing me. I know this sounds feeble but I just want some privacy and for a fifteen year old boy, I feel like I am suffocating. They password the home computer and hide my personal laptop so I have to ask to use the internet - even a quick Google as part of homework is treat suspiciously and often denied. If I ever want to close my door, they swing it open. I'm perpetually grounded. If I want to quit or join something, they insist on doing the opposite. When I'm in the bath, I can hear them rattling around n my room next door, before bursting in and demanding to know why I only got 85% in a test. I have done nothing I can think of to betray their trust so badly. Sorry to complain, I love them really, but a but of space would be nice sometimes. At least I can vent my feelings out here. :)
 
Sounds bad. Theve really gone to extremes to "protect" you that they have pretty much taken your freedom.

Have you tried chatting with them? If they can't trust you, then how can you trust them?

Out of interest is there fear coming from lack of understanding of what the internet contains and a generic speculation of porn, predators and virus's? If that's the case perhaps you should set them right and educate them?

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Oh no, they're well aware of what's on the internet, both use it frequently. It's more an issue of being in control. :p

I have tried chatting but every time it ends in a large argument and all that happens is that they restrict me further. I can't meet my friends in town today, as they're in the house and they make it no secret that they'd rummage through my stuff and I simply can't throw anything else away. If I've done badly in a test, I have to bin it at school or else they'll find it in the recycling, and I can't always remember stuff that might provoke them.

My feelings of irritation are giving way to anger - isn't it peculiar how I'm old enough to do a million household chores and keep things going when they're at work, yet I'm not old enough to be trusted alone for half an hour with a computer? How can I babysit my brother, their son; yet still be too young to enjoy a tiny bit of privacy? :p

Sorry to be so self-indulgent, and I sympathize for everyone on here who all have much worse problems than me. But it annoying and I need to get it out of my system. At least I've found my laptop. I wonder how long it'll last. ???
 
Massively sympathise with your predicament, doesn't sound good at all, but just wondered about one thing:

If I've done badly in a test, I have to bin it at school or else they'll find it in the recycling...
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I know you probably realise this, but this will no doubt just add to their distrust - might even be the kinda thing caused it in the first place. I'm sure you've got your reasons, but what's wrong with your parents knowing if you haven't done well in a test? If you haven't, there must be reasons - perhaps they suspect a lack of effort, hence the tight controls on internet etc., but if it's not that, then perhaps it's something they can help with, or encourage the school to help with.

Just my random thoughts :)
 
WOW, that's heavy. I don't really know what advice to give you over this.

Does they go as far as booking doctors appointments?

If this is getting you down to the point where you can not find any joy in life it my be worth speaking to someone at school or at your GP surgery.

At the end of the day, your mental health is most important.
 
I'm feeling really down at the moment, I'd be happy to tell what's happened to me to anyone, but I'm not sure whether to tell privately or post it here. :(
 
Eddie it is what you feel comfortable with. If you feel like a little personal chat you know where my PM button is.
 
Cheers Delta, but I'll think I'll post here.

*Takes deep breath* Okay here goes:

So today one of my best friends returned to DeviantART after a long absence (for family reasons), Which of course I was please about and starting chatting to her for the first time in 4-6 months. Unfortunately, She felt that most of her friends had abandoned her (she has quite a lot as she's a popular artist) because she hadn't been active and also said that only one person cared when she returned, which was me. Then she closed her account and made me upset.

One of the reasons this has made me so upset because I never realised how much She cared about me. The fact she'd said that the only person who cares about her is me has made emotional inside and feel down about it.

Well that's why I'm down, maybe not as a big problem to others in this topic, but it is to me and I need to get it off my chest :(

Any help is appreciated :)
 
First, I hope you can still get in contact and chat to her. As it sound like this friendship is really important.

At least she know she has a true friend in you.

I really do hope you two can keep you friendship going well into the future.
 
Alright cheers for the advice Delta! I still have her YouTube account and hopefully I can still chat to her there.

:)
 
I'm currently sitting in the driving seat of my car. I feel confused, and I don't know what to do. I currently have demons in many aspects of my life, & I think, perhaps, this may be it.


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T said:
I'm currently sitting in the driving seat of my car. I feel confused, and I don't know what to do. I currently have demons in many aspects of my life, & I think, perhaps, this may be it.

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Don't take any radical action or swift decisions - I'd recommend having a few moments contemplating with the keys firmly in your pocket. Perhaps go for a walk, sit on a bench or something that will allow you to contemplate and cool yourself. Only when you feel relaxed and free, then drive home carefully or walk somewhere safe.

If you feel the same again, there's always someone to talk to. It may be friends or family, or if it's something a bit more private you don't want in the open, there's perhaps doctors or specialists if need be. There'll always be someone who is concerned, there'll always be someone who wants to see you nothing but happy - so just keep calm and take a breath of fresh air. Try and relax for a moment.

Hope you feel better soon T.
 
Right, this is really petty, but... Moany angsty teenager time! *cranks up Spring Awakening*

People in my year are now starting to turn 18, specifically a lot of my close friends... I have to wait until March for such a pleasure!

It's not that I'm desperate to go clubbing by any means, but now they're legal most of them are going to start spending weekends doing that instead of going to our old reliable pub (yay for not IDing) and so I'll miss out on so much time with them. Also most of those who aren't old enough can get away with borrowing ID, but who on earth looks like me?! :p

It's genuinely really infuriating... I just wish there was a way around it!
 
I'm speaking as a non-drinker and a person who doesn't like clubs very much but...

Life doesn't suddenly change the moment you turn eighteen and neither do people. In our social group at school around that time, people were usually very inclusive and we went places and did things that we could all do.

At first, your 18 year old friends might go off to clubs and places where they previously wouldn't get in because it's a new experience. But in most cases, the thrill will quickly wears off and they'll realise that they'll miss the people who can't be there.
 
I too speak as someone who doesn't like clubs. Although I do drink! Much prefer pubs though!

As CGM says, it's a thrill for an 18 year old to suddenly go out into this new world although the hype does wear off after a few months and it just becomes one of those things you just do for whatever reason - the excitement doesn't feel as electric as it did before.

To get around your problem there's not much you can do really. You could try sneak in with your friends into clubs. Although that depends on how strict the clubs are with checking I.D.

Make sure you express to your friends about this though. When I turned 18 I waited eight months till I went to a club for the first time, only because in our little group of friends we wanted to experience it together for the first time so all waited till we all reached up to the age of 18. Although I know people tend not to do that. :p

There's not much you can do apart from moan about it. Just make sure your friends know how you feel!
 
I had an enjoyable day in London, but it only took three or four hours to fall back into my normal state. I haven't done any of the hours of work I was meant to do for tomorrow, but I don't really feel like I care right now.

I am tempted to write 'I just feel terribly alone', but that's not true, even if it seems an easy sentence to write in this sort of thing. It's more the opposite. I'm surrounded by people, dozens of close friends and lovers. But I'm not sure I feel any connection to any of them, on any proper lover. What's the opposite of being alone? Crowded I guess

I just feel overwhelming waves of sad that wash over me now and again, or simple lap against my shores constantly. Any other feelings just feel mute and distant, like I'm experiencing them through a gauze. The only powerful emotions I feel are not towards human beings but places - the yellow-lit city outskirts from a late night train, or the bleakness of industrial estates at dusk.

Literally every day is tortuous.
 
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