OK, so - in some other posts you may have noticed I've said I've been involved in Finance, Customer Service, Catering and what not - this is true! However, after the death of my best friend just shy of my 30th Birthday, taking with it the majority of my business/career, words he gave me have stuck with me ever since.
This was no ordinary guy, we were in Radio together, he was quite high profile certainly in our industry - had a passion, vigour, and talent that by now would have been gracing the biggest of airwaves (he had been nominated for a Sony Radio award too).
After this event, I found he had miraculously woven in a fabric of a belief system that allows me to continue on a path with a faith and determination, that should I begin to disbelieve, I actually make a mockery of our incredible friendship. After this point I began to research positive psychology and the like, even teaching it at points to colleges and businesses, and was involved in writing a book with some... well, rather impressive individuals, whom ALL gave the same advice. (The book isn't published yet, long story).
Anyway, the mind is a most powerful device! There are plenty of things you can do, to ease if you are feeling crappy. Meditation is a quality tool, vastly under rated! Don't see it as a mystical thing - it really isn't. Take time to reflect on the positive things you have. I've been through a really rough year myself, well over that now in fact - BUT - there is one thing I keep in mind above all else...
And to sum this up, as Sir Winston Churchill said....
"When you're going through hell, KEEP GOING!"
Try as best you can, to maintain your focus on the POSITIVE aspects of your life. The brain takes in a fraction of millions of bits of information every day. Think of it like a Haystack of information, and your hand can ONLY grasp so many. THAT defines your experience of that moment in time. When you focus on a negative aspect, what about all that other straw that is sitting there, waiting to be explored? This is a metaphor used in NLP, to describe our mental ability to process information. We are FAR MORE in control of our experience than we realise. An approximation of such, is around 80/20 - 20% are experiences BEYOND our control. Things that will happen regardless, as they are not of our making. However, 80% CAN be attributed to our actions/reactions of a given experience!
The power of your life, really is in your own hands - grasp your own experience, stop worrying what others think of you. STOP comparing yourself to others (yes, you Rowe ;D) - the ONLY person you are in competition with is YOU. Everyone else will have their own insecurities and concerns just like you do. Who knows how THEY view YOUR work? Also, how many times at school did we experience the smart arse who boasted about their early hand in time, only to get a crappy grade
Stick to YOUR time scale. The creative process is one that requires your mind to be less logical. Remove the PRESSURE from your goal, and it flow more freely. I've been a musician all my life in various forms, you will be far better if you relax off yourself.
I bet you treat everyone else better than yourself!
Think of it this way - all the stuff you say to yourself in the mirror or in your head. Would you say that to anyone else (well, that you liked anyway hahah)? .....
Think about that for a moment...
So why do you say it to yourself?
BE kinder to yourselves, that way, you'll be kinder to those around you too
TheMan
OH and when I feel crappy, I stick this video on - WILL SMITH, very inspiring
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