The I Feel Down Topic.

Discussion in 'Corner Coffee' started by Adam, 13th Jun 2012.

  1. John C

    John C TowersStreet Member

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    I would also like to offer my sympathies on the loss of your lab Billy. It's so sad, and you also have the added poignancy of Billy's link with Kim. I know it's painful now, but you will always have great memories of him. My condolences to you all.
     
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    Sorry for your loss Delta. I had to put my dog to sleep two days ago and I’m reallly struggling to come to terms with not having him around anymore. He was only four but in those four years he was always by my side following me around and I just feel so down and empty inside now he is gone.

    We had so many things we wanted to do with him, so many plans and now nothing, the house is so quiet without him. I’m absolutely heartbroken and find myself bursting into tears all the time
     
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    Thanks you for all the kind comments.

    @Dan sorry to hear about your dog, they become part of the family. Interwoven into our lives, in a way I never thought was possible.

    I have had the missing piece affect, since he passed.
    Like going to give the dog a bit of meat when making a sandwich, as he is normally by my side when i making one, and he is not there.
    Or automatically stepping over the food bowl that is no longer there.



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    Dan, my condolences to you too. It's a horrible feeling. They really do become such a part of the family, and when you lose them it's just as bad as losing any other member of the family.
     
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    Have my condolences @Dan; it must be so hard for you, especially considering how young your poor dog was.
     
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    Brohugs, dude.

    Sod people, they can all burn in hell. But critters passing is allways a loss :(
     
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    Incase my recent postings haven't made it obvious, I've been falling in to a rather grimdark head-hole for the last week or so.
     
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    Only the past week? ;)
     
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    At least I'm still sane enough to laugh at that, buddy ;)
     
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    I would say, chin up, there’s always light at the end of the tunnel. But sorry I was mistaken. It’s just the glint from death's sickle :confused:
     
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    If it reassures you, Diogo, I think everyone's in the same boat with the lockdown; I know it's certainly made me less happy. A combination of morbid news reports and hearing of my hobby struggling, as well as other virus-related things, has really gotten me down lately. But if it reassures you, there is light at the end of the tunnel. This will end eventually.

    If we can just ride the next little bit of time out, then it will all get better!
     
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    Oh, I'm well aware that a) I am not the only one, and b) there are many in a far worse situation.

    Of course, when your brain has started to reject reality and substitute it's own, that doesn't neccessarily help.... :p


    It's a very odd headstate to be in. I'm reminded of a line from my favourite film, Fear and Loathing in las Vegas, ".... you can actually watch youself behaving in this way, but are powerless to stop it."
     
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    Lockdown has taken it's toll pretty badly. Lifting my quote from Corona topic

    You may have seen some of it manifesting in Discord, that's just the tip. I've had arguments on here, elsewhere online, IRL, drunk far too much (am lightweight), I have felt for a long while that everybody hates me (unfounded, but it's in my head), I can't sleep, eating has gone haywire, my body feels like crap from the aforementioned and I just want to cry, destroy things and make everything stop. The uncertainty is crippling me.

    I apologise for any strange messages you might have received, odd comments on things, ignorance or anything odd but it's a struggle and to be quite frank, I'm losing the battle badly. I was just coping before (I like to work whilst suffering, it makes the problems stay out of my head) but now I'm staring at walls all day, I can't do it.
     
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    Feeling a bit weird and sad and needed a place to vent. I was at Manchester Arena when the bombing happened in 2017, and with the anniversary and lots of frequent reminders of it I feel stuck in my own head. I feel like I can't be sad or upset because I'm alive and safe, so then this feeling of guilt kicks in.
    I know there's not a lot I can do about it, but I do feel like this around anniversaries and don't want to burden my parents with it because they're both stressed with work.
     
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    If you want to offload. My DM is there, for you to get it off your chest.

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    I'm so sorry to hear that you got caught up in this and that this is playing on your mind. You should not feel guilty for surviving this horrific attack, you just happen to be lucky that you were not anywhere near where the bomb went off. The only person guilty of this is the bomber himself and anyone that supports his actions.

    I've myself had some very close calls in my life and I know the "what if" sometimes comes to mind.

    Something like Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) could be of help. Remember this was not your fault and in no way you should feel bad or guilty for being able to continue your life. Never forget the past, use it as a learning tool to shape your future for the better, but don't dwell on it. Enjoy the present and make the most of today, and look ahead to a brighter future. But don't let this bring you down and destroy your life. Turn those negative thoughts around into positive ones, as they say, every cloud has a silver lining.

    Keep your chin up, keep smiling, you are free to go and enjoy the rest of your life without feeling guilty and I'll give you my full blessing to do this. Don't let this evil bomber take this all away from you.
     
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    Thank you - that's so kind of you.
    Thank you - it's so kind of you to put so much thought into a reply! I'm definitely looking into CBT - it does 100% sound like it would be helpful.
     
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    Anyone here use the Headspace app? I tried it a few ago but didn't have the patience for it. Been really struggling mentally lately and have given it another go and I love it, actually look forward to the daily sessions now!
     
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    Me! I find it super helpful too - I can't meditate unless it's guided and the guides are perfect.
    Also recommend Moodpath if you feel like you want to keep track of how you're feeling and see your progress! You can keep a mental health journal and there's loads of articles, mini podcasts and guided meditation/mindfulness sessions too :)
    Look after yourself - I'm here if you need anything!
     
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    I briefly tried using it as well; meditation is a very strange sensation, I must admit, but it did really help!
     
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