The I Feel Down Topic.

Discussion in 'Corner Coffee' started by Adam, 13th Jun 2012.

  1. Rowe

    Rowe TowersStreet Member

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    *Hugs* You have so much to look forward to in life and believe me when I say that you will get the help you need. There are people out there, like members on here, who know exactly what you're going through and can help you out. You're not alone in this.
     
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    I know exactly how you feel has happened to me before, the best thing to do is just blank it and move on, don't let it get to you or it will win. Ignore it and you'll always come out on top. Every dark cloud has a silver lining, believe me I went though a lot a few years ago, now I feel on top of the world, things do get better, just you wait and see ;D
     
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    Well, thanks Rowe and Wortho. Here's hoping things get better. Because at the moment, it doesn't seem like it. I'm feeling slightly better, I think a word of encouragement really helps a lot..

    *hugs*

    Love you all
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  4. Rose Of Dawn

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    I've been using a dating site recently to find myself a boyfriend. I started chatting to a guy on there who seemed really nice and genuine. He looked hot, and gave me loads of compliments. We got chatting a lot, and ended up sharing pictures and stuff. I finally pluck up the courage to ask him if he wants to meet up, and it turns out the pictures he'd sent me were of a completely different person. He set up a profile with fake pictures because he was ashamed that someone might find out he likes transwomen.

    Seriously, I know I'm 'different' to other women, but should I really have to settle for people who have to lie about who they are to try and get in my knickers? Is that all I deserve? Because that's all I seem to get - people who'd just like me as their 'dirty little secret'. It's not like I'm bad looking or anything - I've been on estrogen for a year now and it's clearly affected my body - hell, I walked around Alton Towers last tuesday when there were loads of punk-ass teenagers around and not once did I get any looks. I'm just sick of other people feeling ashamed for liking me, when I couldn't be more proud of who I am and what I've accomplished with my life already.
     
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    you don't deserve to be someone 'dirty little secret', there is a difference between being discreet and lie that this bloke has done.

    Keep you chin up, your a good looking girl. the right bloke is out there for you. I wont roll out any more old gems :)
     
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  6. Martin

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    It's not your problem, it's society's. Continue being proud of yourself, one day society will be more accepting. It's a shame the guy felt that embarrassed, he shouldn't need to be.
     
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  7. Rose Of Dawn

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    Thanks guys :)
     
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    Its certainly not a reflection on you, there are a ridiculous number of people on dating sites hiding behind photos of other people.
     
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  9. Scott

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    Get my Uni results tomorrow... I'm hoping that I'll be posting in the happy thread come 930 tomorrow morning :/
     
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    I had my college induction day today, and when I exited the college, I felt like a Made a Terrible mistake. I feel as if I've picked the wrong college and the wrong course to do, I feel depressed that I didn't talk to any other pupils and feel lonely right now. :(

    Despite how much I hated it, I still miss my old secondary school and most importantly, my mates as well :'(
     
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  11. Danny

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    I still feel the same way about my high school, even one year down the line of college. As long as you stay in touch with your high school friends, you'll be fine ;)

    I was in pretty much the same shoes as you this time last year, feeling pretty much the same after my induction day. You'll have plenty of opportunities to socialise with all the new people when you start. Sometimes induction days offer nothing compared to how the course/subjects you have chosen to do actually are, so don't feel down about it. You may end up thoroughly enjoying it when you start in September and you'll no doubt make new friends quickly enough ;)
     
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    Well, I'll just say it bluntly. I lost my dad on May 27th this year. As I type this, its been 2 hours since my mum died of a heavy stroke and clot on the brain. I'm incredibly scared of the real world, was always a mummy's boy I guess. I really don't want to be alone, but I'm a fighter at heart so I need to keep my chin up.

    It's not fully sunk in, and I dread the following weeks that are to come, but hopefully I can get through this and prove the doubters in my family wrong.
     
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    Such sad news Adam, sometimes life is so cruel.
    You will get through it and be a stronger person for it though. You can do it for your parents.
     
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    Feeling low over the state my sister's hamster in right now, he's very old for his age with leg traumas from falling off high levels as a young'un and can barely move; the conjunctivitis is the least of his worries. His slow mannerisms are a scary contrast to a year ago when he was trying to climb things, escaping under the laptop etc. I know he'll pass away at some point but right now, like with every animal I've grown sentimental and emotional over who's gone, I hate watching his misery in not doing what he wants anymore.

    Edit: He passed earlier this hour. R.I.P ham.
     
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    I know your pain only too well Rowe. The biggest problem with keeping rodents is that once they get ill or just old, they go down hill very rapidly :(

    *hugs* to you m'dear.
     
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    I'm really sorry to hear this :(
     
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    Wow...there are some incredibly brave people on this forum. I came on here with the intention of moaning about my leaking ceiling, but realise now that in the grand scheme of things it's not really worth worrying about it.

    Can I just say, and I don't mean to patronise people, but take it from someone slightly older than most who also had a slightly tortured time at school/college, not really fitting in, getting bullied etc...it does get better. Eventually you will meet people, be it a partner or just a friend, who will accept you and love you for who you are. Rubbish to it being the best days of your life, I would NEVER go back to my school days. Be strong people, we need people like you to drag our dreadful country out of the horrible mess we've made of it!

    And to AdamJ, I am so, so sorry for your loss. Having watched my husband lose his mother very suddenly at a relatively young age (he was a massive mummy's boy), I have some idea of the pain you are in at the moment. My heart goes out to you and I hope you find the support you need, be it on here or elsewhere. Don't try to be strong, just feel what you need to feel.

    Much love to all xxx
     
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    Death is always an unfortunate thing, and biggest condolences go out to those affected.
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    Frankly, I've lost all hope and interest in anything. Nothing has changed through these past 3 years, what are the chances of it changing now? Everyday is the same, but if there's change, it's always negative.
    Social Services are butting into my life again to make things worse. Far worse. I don't want to take drastic measures again to try and make everything better.:(

    I've become so tetchy that I can't help but push people away or cause arguments. Even my 'closest' friends at school have given up, though these are the very same people who always reassure me that they're there if I need them.

    On the brighter side, at least I'm not diagnosed with an eating disorder. :)

    Depression for the loss.
     
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    Adam, here come a old chestnut you are probably going to be/get sick of. My condolences for your lost.

    I know it going to be a hard time for you over the next couple of week, as you start to grieve at the same time you are organizing your mum funeral. they will come a time where you want to lock the door, draw the curtains and hide from the world. Try to fight this.

    Find something you enjoy and can do anywhere, and when it starts to get too much use it to help you though the hard times.

    And remember, if you need to talk, moan or have some support. there are plenty of people here that wants to give you some emotional support. You are not alone, you got that motty crew that know as the TST community.
     
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    A quick question to start, have you been to your doctor over your loss of all hope and interest in anything, and becoming tetchy. They maybe able to help you with this.

    they are good at doing that. and you have the right to have your voice heard, and your option on drastic measures to be taken into account.

    Don't lose hope, there is alway light at the end of the tunnel.
     
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