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The I Feel Down Topic.

Sorry to use this topic so soon after joining, I really don't want to seem like a drain on everyone's happiness.
I'm in my second year of a-levels (RE, English literature, government & politics) and I'm finding it so difficult. I struggle with politics and I've started going from Cs to Es. My teacher won't give me any support, and tells me to get a grip when I ask for help. I just feel completely overwhelmed and exhausted by it all.
I used to want to go to university to study English literature and education studies but I've been completely put off because I don't think I can do it. I can't do college so in my head I'm a failure and shouldn't waste the staff's time at university. I'm completely lost on what I want to do and I feel like a disappointment to other people.
Sorry to be a downer, but I needed to get some of that off my chest.
 
BeccaH said:
Sorry to use this topic so soon after joining, I really don't want to seem like a drain on everyone's happiness.
I'm in my second year of a-levels (RE, English literature, government & politics) and I'm finding it so difficult. I struggle with politics and I've started going from Cs to Es. My teacher won't give me any support, and tells me to get a grip when I ask for help. I just feel completely overwhelmed and exhausted by it all.
I used to want to go to university to study English literature and education studies but I've been completely put off because I don't think I can do it. I can't do college so in my head I'm a failure and shouldn't waste the staff's time at university. I'm completely lost on what I want to do and I feel like a disappointment to other people.
Sorry to be a downer, but I needed to get some of that off my chest.
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Uni and college are totally different platforms; you'll typically get different stories from whoever you ask but I found uni to be a much more comfortable environment. The staff were far more supportive as well.

Educational politics won't creep into your English lit at uni (albeit real world politics may; there's no escaping them sadly!), so even if you're struggling with them now you certainly won't have to down the line.

Might be worth speaking to another member of staff at your college? Certainly don't let one teacher not giving you any support put you off from achieving the things you want to!
 
I took Friday off because I physically couldn't face going in and emailed my personal tutor so just hoping to hear back from her so I can get sorted out.
The plan will probably be to see what happens on results day and make my decisions then surrounding uni, I would just love for someone at college to tell me I'm doing okay and make me feel better but I doubt that will ever happen haha.
 
Watch a series of yes minister.
First thing my first year degree politics tutor told us to do.
Don't let the buggers get you down, they don't mark your exams.
 
LOL no need, just splash your face with water before going in and start coughing, they'll soon take notice and stop being arses.
 
See you'd think college would improve after I've cried in front of most of my teachers, but not at all. Might just drop out of college and move to Timbuktu.
 
Colleges are funded for the next year based on their student number on a given day.

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When I went to college, most of the teachers seemed quite unprofessional and generally seemed to look down on everyone else...
It was as if they had formed their own elite class, it was bizarre!

Anyway, that's kind of irrelevant...
I, also had a brake down in college, I doubt its THAT rare...
You need something to keep yourself grounded, doesn't matter what it is, you just need something, for me, it was writing stories but it doesn't need to be an activity, just some kind of focal point for you mind...(that's the best explanation I can come up with at 3am...sorry)
 
I did my AS-Levels then dropped out and went to college to study just computing. I realised I had gotten to the age where I didn't feel like I needed to learn History, Sociology, IT, General Studies and World Development.

I know at that time I felt like every decision I made was going to be life changing and set the course for my life. But realistically it is just a drop in the ocean. Do what you need to get yourself comfortable and if that is to drop out and study just 1 subject then you'll feel a lot happier going deeper into that 1 area than trying to balance multiple subjects.
 
Well. I’m having one of those nights and just need to vent a little.

For some perspective; I’m averaging 70hrs a week at work, working for a nationwide roadside breakdown company. For annomity reasons I won’t say which colour, but it’s one of the major three.

And I’m tired. So damn tired. I’m working so damn much to support my partner and step son and run the house. I’m the sole provider of the house hold, but it seems like no matter how much over time I put in the banks always empty at the end of the month.

The only true holiday I’ll of had for 6 years is my upcoming ATR trip with my partner, that may not even happen currently with Covid19 around. And if it does, what if she doesn’t enjoy herself? I’ve put so much into trying to make it perfect and I’m sure she’ll appreciate it. I think anyway. It’s hard to tell sometimes yknow?

I moved over 300mi away from my immediate family, to a place unknown to me at the time to escape from the emotions that I was constantly feeling down in my home town since I lost my Mum and Grandmother. I’ve made one friend up here. Just one. Who doesn’t bother half the time. I mean, I can’t blame him. I’m always at work, right?

I’m sick of my step son not appreciating anything. And I know that sounds horrible, and I don’t expect gods gracious gift from him cause I’m a step parent, but there’s literally zero appreciation. Everything’s an argument. Nothings ever good enough. Kid turns 8 this year, and nothing we do, or I provide, is enough.

I’m tired guys, so very tired. I apologise for the rant, just needed to vent.


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@USLShadow i am a step parent too. I know that feeling. My step kids did not appreciate what i did. It is only years later, when they looked back and released what i did for them.


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delta79 said:
@USLShadow i am a step parent too. I know that feeling. My step kids did not appreciate what i did. It is only years later, when they looked back and released what i did for them.


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I think the same could be said, to an extent, for all children. I'm 20 and already look back and realise how ungrateful I was for what my parents did for me.

Does your partner like roller coasters? Even if she doesn't I'm sure she'd enjoy the time with you and will appreciate the effort you put in to make it happen. Fingers crossed it works out for you!
 
speedy said:
I think the same could be said, to an extent, for all children. I'm 20 and already look back and realise how ungrateful I was for what my parents did for me.

Does your partner like roller coasters? Even if she doesn't I'm sure she'd enjoy the time with you and will appreciate the effort you put in to make it happen. Fingers crossed it works out for you!
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She doesn’t know because she’s never been on any so it’s a risky move.

To be fair looking back at how I behaved I wasn’t the best, it just gets tiring you know?




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delta79 said:
@USLShadow i am a step parent too. I know that feeling. My step kids did not appreciate what i did. It is only years later, when they looked back and released what i did for them.


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Just gotta wait it out and hope the penny drops


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