The I Feel Down Topic.

[Alix]

Came here to say similar to Rob666.
If you can, find out who's doing the sifting and interviewing and have an informal chat with them. It shows willing, and also means your name will be their mind as "that nice intelligent Matt N" when they are looking though CVs. They will still treat you and the other candidates fairly, but humans are humans and it's part of the CS game.

 

[Matt N]

Now this is interesting… as my current line manager said that she would be unable to personally help me with my actual application due to almost certainly being on the panel. So there will likely be at least one person I know well on it!

The other name vaguely mentioned as a likely panel member when I chatted to my line manager and Grade 7 was also someone who I know and have interacted with at work. They attend some of our team catchups, are coming to an away day on Wednesday, and I chatted with them just the other day about something!

I’m not sure who the 3rd person will be, but my line manager tried to reassure me when I spoke to her about applying by saying “There will be people you know on the panel”.

 

[rob666]

...and I know an absent thoosie who used to hang around on here who is always banging on about recruitment and retention Matt.

You will be fine.

 

[Matt N]

...and I know an absent thoosie who used to hang around on here who is always banging on about recruitment and retention Matt.

You will be fine.

I keep reading about how terrible the job market is and how no one my age is securing a permanent job at the moment, which probably doesn’t help my nerves. If this person is banging on about how getting people is hard, I’ll admit that that surprises me!

I do wonder, perhaps naively, if it might play into my favour in terms of applicant pool that my role is not something specific to the civil service and also has a more specific technical skillset (mainly programming and a little bit of data/statistics knowledge) involved with it as opposed to being something slightly broader in skillset that is more specific to the civil service (e.g. a policy role).

 

[rob666]

He was...not seen him since the volvo stopped going backwards.

Cul de sacs you see, can be tricky.

 

[OtherBen]

you were born for this role lad. crack on.

 

[owenstreet7]

I'm going to be open up on here and I'm absolutely heartbroken, I've been in a relationship with a fellow enthusiast for the last month

We both got on very very well, his humour is amazing and I absolutely thought he was a blast

Last week, he put me on a break due to anxiety which ended up in a break up which was triggered by a Batman GIF.

So he cut me out of his birthday plans and after his birthday trip, he ends up putting "Soon " on relationship on his discord profile. He then tonight ends up getting back with his ex.

I then am really hurt so I end up blocking him and the talking stage I've had before getting with him that ended badly, I've messaged him and gave him my number for him to follow up with me on WhatsApp. It's low risk but if he replies, it'll be worth a shot.

I am in a bit of a frantic mood right now but I'm really really upset about it all

Absolutely heartbroken by it all...

I am honestly nearly done with relationships, I don't want to keep getting my heart broken with LGBT dating...

 

[Matt N]

I'm sorry to hear that @owenstreet7; I hope you're not taking it too badly.

I am absolutely not the person to be giving relationship advice, so I won't attempt to wade in here, but if you do want someone to talk to or an impartial ear to vent to, I am always here.

 

[owenstreet7]

I'm sorry to hear that @owenstreet7; I hope you're not taking it too badly.

I am absolutely not the person to be giving relationship advice, so I won't attempt to wade in here, but if you do want someone to talk to or an impartial ear to vent to, I am always here.

Thank you @Matt N

That is really sweet of you, I think putting it here has helped as I wanted to sort of vent tonight

I literally am full of emotions right now but I now have closure and will work out next moves.