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The I Feel Down Topic.

Skyscraper said:
Thanks for all your condolences, it really means a lot.

We had confirmation today that she took her own life. It feels like I'm grieving all over again šŸ˜¢
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That's really awful to hear, I am so sorry. That's a very tough way to lose someone close to you. I hope in time you can look back on the good times with happy memories - for now I am sure it feels very raw. I hope it's been of some comfort to reach out to us, we're all thinking of you!
 
Thanks both. We've got the green light to clear out her flat, so we'll be doing that this weekend. Will certainly be an emotional trip.

The funeral arrangements are being sorted, although I feel that we won't be able to move on afterwards as it'll eventually all be dragged up again by the inquest.
 
Been in a really messed up head hole lately.
I can deal with the depressive bouts. I can get through them and move on.
But this is different. Where has all this deep, seething, anger and rage come from? I haven't felt like this since I was a bloody teenager! I'm just about ready to go on a killdozer rampage. I'm normally the chill guy! This is not me!

Wonder if it's related to a certain new law that prevents the traditional method of de-stressing?
 
My Dad died suddenly Monday night. Just got up in the middle of the night of the night and dropped dead on the kitchen floor.

The last two days have felt like a storm of emotions; grief, shock, confusion, pain, anger.

Weā€™re assuming massive heart attack (he was waiting for heart surgery) but he had been relatively well, still working part time, always active and on the go, always in the middle of some project. Always tinkering, building something, fixing something, improving something. If anyone had a problem, they went to my dad, he always knew what to do.

Everyone who knew him is in complete and utter shock.

My Dad, the man who could fix anything.
 
Itgoeshowhigh said:
My Dad died suddenly Monday night. Just got up in the middle of the night of the night and dropped dead on the kitchen floor.

The last two days have felt like a storm of emotions; grief, shock, confusion, pain, anger.

Weā€™re assuming massive heart attack (he was waiting for heart surgery) but he had been relatively well, still working part time, always active and on the go, always in the middle of some project. Always tinkering, building something, fixing something, improving something. If anyone had a problem, they went to my dad, he always knew what to do.

Everyone who knew him is in complete and utter shock.

My Dad, the man who could fix anything.
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Your dad sounds like he was a great person. It must be horrible that he's gone, and I share my sympathies. It's good that you have positive memories of him.
 
Been a while since I last posted in here, but I think it's definitely warranted.

After a long period of ill health, my grandfather passed away last Monday morning aged 87. šŸ˜¢ He'd taken a downturn over the past few weeks anyway, so we knew it was quite probable to be the end, but the news is still very sad. I'd been away on holiday over the previous week, and had a message on the Thursday that ended up getting me really quite upset. Not what I wanted to happen while I was in Prague! We (as in, Mike and I) elected to return to the UK the following day so that I was at least in the right country, and we only just made our Eurostar from Amsterdam (the inbound train from Berlin was delayed). It was absolutely the right decision to make. Went down to visit my parents last Monday so I wasn't on my own, which was a good idea, as it helped me to process things a bit better.

I'm grateful for the support I've received so far from everyone, and Mike in particular for his work in getting a travel plan sorted so we could get back to the UK as soon as possible. Prague to London in one day is not something I'd like to repeat if I could help it (particularly because it involves a really early start in Prague!), but the end result was worth it. Not least because we basically ended up having a whole bottle of wine each on the Eurostar from Amsterdam back to London. :p
 
rob666 said:
Sorry for your loss mate, timing is sometimes not everything with family losses.
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I'll admit it did put a bit of a dampener on the holiday, but I still enjoyed myself regardless. Managed to finally visit Venice as well, and it was absolutely beautiful. Helped that we picked an excellent day for it in terms of the weather!
 
NuttySquirrel said:
Sorry to hear that @Jonathan. Even if it's not exactly unexpected, losing someone you care about is still a shock. Not easy when you are far away from family when the news breaks as well.
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Thankfully, I was at home when I got the call to give me the news. Had my phone out on my desk and everything so I could grab it quickly. When my phone rang and I could see it was my dad calling, I just knew what it was going to be about without even having to answer it.

Was pretty much the same when my gran died - I felt my phone vibrating in my pocket, and I just knew what it was going to be about without having to look at it. When I saw it was my mum ringing, that was just confirmation in my head of what I was about to be told without even needing to be told, if that makes sense.

I do at least have people from church up here, so I'm not completely alone, and if I felt I needed it, I would've probably asked if someone could pop around just so I wasn't completely alone. Wanting someone to talk to in-person is mainly why I went down to my parents' place after work last Monday.
 
Jonathan said:
Been a while since I last posted in here, but I think it's definitely warranted.

After a long period of ill health, my grandfather passed away last Monday morning aged 87. šŸ˜¢ He'd taken a downturn over the past few weeks anyway, so we knew it was quite probable to be the end, but the news is still very sad. I'd been away on holiday over the previous week, and had a message on the Thursday that ended up getting me really quite upset. Not what I wanted to happen while I was in Prague! We (as in, Mike and I) elected to return to the UK the following day so that I was at least in the right country, and we only just made our Eurostar from Amsterdam (the inbound train from Berlin was delayed). It was absolutely the right decision to make. Went down to visit my parents last Monday so I wasn't on my own, which was a good idea, as it helped me to process things a bit better.

I'm grateful for the support I've received so far from everyone, and Mike in particular for his work in getting a travel plan sorted so we could get back to the UK as soon as possible. Prague to London in one day is not something I'd like to repeat if I could help it (particularly because it involves a really early start in Prague!), but the end result was worth it. Not least because we basically ended up having a whole bottle of wine each on the Eurostar from Amsterdam back to London. :p
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87 is a very good age. I hope that you are coping well.
 
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